Help! My Boyfriend Doesn't Always Climax?!


Help! My Boyfriend Doesn't Always Climax?!
Are you bad in the sack or are you just misinformed?

It may seem like it’s common sense that men just always have orgasms, but the truth of the matter is – it’s a myth!

This week, I was asked by a new client if it was normal that her boyfriend wasn’t climaxing every session? It made her feel terrible and inadequate. I’m sure she can now understand what men feel like when they don’t make us climax.
However, this is a huge burden to carry for both parties and it puts so much unneeded stress on our sexual relationships.

More from YourTango: After Gym Sex?! Hot or Not?

A few things:

1.) You don’t need to climax to enjoy yourself. Just because you aren’t climaxing, doesn’t mean you’re not having a good time. Right? Haven’t you had sessions where you were close but you missed it but it was still a good time? Same thing for men.

2.) Own your orgasm. I think it’s become second nature to depend on our lovers and mates for our orgasms. If we don’t climax, it must be them. Wrong. It’s us. It’s so important we know our body and we know what makes us turn on so we can do that in bed. If we start contracting our orgasms to let other people manage, we’re in trouble.

3.) Have fun. Seriously. Stop thinking about your orgasm or your mates so much. Putting all that pressure on yourselves and each other does one thing onlyincreases anxiety…which….is the exact opposite ingredient you need to have an orgasm ….relaxation.

More from YourTango: G-Spot Shot?! A Shot For More Pleasure?

And, catch me on Twitter @jennatimetweets

Share this with someone you love (or even like a lot)!

Let's make it
FB official
Recent Expert Posts
Flirty Talk

7 Reasons Why You Have a Fear of Love

Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares 7 reasons you have fear about love and 3 truths you can take on board.

Summer Couple

Ditch Your Need for Certainty: Cultivate These Nine Traits

Sometimes we find ourselves on the precipice of a decision and become paralyzed. We hesitate ...


The Least & Most Open-Minded Cities In Online Dating

Wondering if your city is open-minded when it comes to online dating? Check out this data from Zoosk

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no timeā€¦

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>