The 7 Best Reasons To Break Up

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Some problems are small potatoes. Others are huge, honking dealbreakers.

Are you in a relationship that doesn't feel quite right? Have you gone back and forth trying to decide if you should stay or go? Here are some signs you should run, not walk to the nearest exit:

1. He/she doesn't treat you with respect. Does your partner say or do cruel things that hurt your feelings? Sure, we can all say things at some point in a fit of anger we wish we could take back but when you are with someone who puts you down, it is seriously time to reconsider.

2. He/she doesn't promote personal growth. Does your significant other sabotage your opportunities for success? Does he/she try to keep you as is and shut down your goals and aspirations? An insecure person may have a fear of losing his/her partner if the partner changes in any way. It is almost like a fear the partner will outgrow them. If he/she doesn't support your personal growth or your own, it can feel suffocating. Just think, if you feel this stagnant now, can you live life like that in the future?

3. He/she doesn't respect your boundaries. When you say no, do they actually listen? If your limits and boundaries aren't respected while you are dating, imagine what that will feel like down the road. If someone continues to push you after you have created a boundary, he/she is not respecting you as a person.

4. Your partner doesn't support individuality. Have you lost yourself in this relationship? Have you changed your friends, your style, even the music you listen to? If you have become lost in what the other person wants and they do not support your desire to have your own interests, take a step back. Again, what do you think this will be like years down the road?

5. You don't feel good about yourself when you are with him/her. In a healthy relationship, your partner brings out your best self. Your positive interactions and loving feelings empower you to be radiant. The opposite is true when we are in a relationship with someone who doesn't treat us well . We become more withdrawn, angry and negative. It impacts all other relationships in our lives as well. Keep reading ...

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