I help many divorced clients who are planning on reentering the dating scene after years of marriage. It's tough out there and somewhat scary. If you've been married for a long while, the dating scene may overwhelm or frighten you. How Do I Know I'm Ready To Start Dating After A Divorce?
How do you know that you're ready to enter the dating scene again? Ask yourself if you feel that you need a partner or if you would like to enjoy and share another's company. If you still feel that you need someone to complete you or your life, you aren't ready. This feeling of need will lead to a poor choice of a partner. This feeling of need is usually a signal that it's too soon for you to date again.
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The loneliness and constant re-playing the tape of your partner's betrayal may trap you into feeling alone and undesirable. Medicating with a new person is a temporary pain patch. Often, those temporary patches are temporary for a very good reason. Sacrificing your own physical and emotional health to get a "fix" of feeling desired again is never a good idea. Get Hitched For The Kids: Why Cohabitation Isn't Enough
When you're ready and enough time has passed since the divorce or breakup, it is wise to tell everyone you respect that you're actively looking or open to meeting new people. People you respect have respectful friends. Therefore, they are usually your best option for securing a date with someone you will like.
If you don't have many friends, it may be helpful to begin searching for different groups you could join to meet other singles. Cooking classes or groups, poetry readings, yoga, church groups, plays and sporting events all provide opportunities to connect with others who appreciate the same things you do. Being with other singles will help build your confidence as well as provide feedback about how you present and appeal to others. Are Lies An Automatic Relationship Killer?
Being married may have enabled you to not focus on your looks, your mannerisms, and your lifestyle. Dating forces you to evaluate all of those qualities that may have been taken for granted or not explored. One of the most popular options for singles is online dating. It's a wonderful option in its ability to date on your own time, ask a lot of questions and get to know someone in the comfort of your own home.
Online dating is alarming in its ability to provide a "cover" for someone to lie, take advantage of someone by saying what they want to hear and to basically be serial dating without the other person knowing. Therefore, caution and intelligence is required if you're going to online date.
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