"How could he?" "How could he have done that to us?" This is what a lot of my clients say when they are in the process of getting over their husband's infidelity.
The majority would say that such an event such as this is tragic and yes I would agree. Yet to think like that for the long-term is actually very detrimental to the person who feels betrayed because holding onto the resentments will only make things worse for them.
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However to finally let go of the event — would it not make more sense to find peace in the turmoil and look to feel gratitude for how he behaved?
Below are five different reasons how your affair recovery can be easy.
1. Recovery can heal your wounds. Any kind of hurt, especially betrayal is a fabulous way to heal your old wounds. Your husband's affair will have just have been a trigger of hurt that was already there. All wounds come from unresolved hurt and your husband's behavior will just be shining a light on them.
I know from personal experience that an affair is probably the most painful way to have the relationship end and at the same time it is because of this pain you can choose to seek healing to soothe it and understand it. By doing this you are working towards your wholeness and self love — the biggest gift you can give yourself. Keep reading ...
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