Men, Are You Listening? THESE 3 Traits Will Attract ANY Woman

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Trust me, there's not a woman alive who isn't looking for these 3 things in a guy.

What if I told you that you could attract any woman you want? Yes, you — with your rather prominent nose, receding hairline, and all. You can have any woman as long as you know what women want. As a matter of fact, I'm not quite sure why you don't.

It's so easy and quite a shame fathers don't teach their sons this skill before puberty hits. The truth is, that's when many boys lose it.

Puberty takes longer to work for boys than for girls. Couple that with the fact that young girls tend to emotionally mature faster, what we're left with is a bunch of awkward, horny 15-year-old boys, who wishfully observe their busty classmates date 18- and 19-year-old guys.

By the time these boys' pimples subside and their lanky bodies develop six packs, the girls are dating doctors and half of these boys are still left carrying the horror and insecurity of approaching a girl they consider pretty.

I recently attended a singles event where two guys stood out from the rest. Every girl in the place made it a point to chat with those two men, while other guys jealously watched their girlfriend exchange numbers with one, or both, of them.

One gentleman was about 5'10", of a somewhat slender built and bold, and had less hair than a newborn baby's butt. The other man was about 6'2" and as round as a well-inflated beach ball.

So, what was it about these two men that made the prettiest girls in the place swoon and shriek in excitement?

What they had in common is C.I.A.

No, they were not members of the Central Intelligence Agency (although both probably harbored wanna-be James Bond fantasies at some point in their life).

Both gentlemen possessed three qualities that are ESSENTIAL to attracting any woman:

1. Confidence.

If you're a janitor or a CEO, regardless of how you look or what you do for a living, learn to enter and hold the room with CONFIDENCE. Learn to own whatever it is that you do, and be the best at it.

If you're a janitor, be the best-dressed janitor. If you're an accountant, be the coolest and the hippest accountant. But just be the best you, and believe in it.

I know confidence doesn't come easy to many men, but trust me when I tell you that it's the single most important quality to have if you wish to attract a woman. Women smell, feel, and sense a lack of confidence. It repels them more than garlic vampires (bad breath repels women as well, but I digress).

Learn to master your own authentic confidence (not just faking it) if you have any hope of attracting the woman of your dreams. Be careful, however, not to turn confidence into arrogance. While confidence is an aphrodisiac, arrogance is a major turn off.

2. Independence.

I'm not referring to obvious financial independence. (Let's face it gentlemen, you need to have at least some money to go out on dates. That goes without saying.)

I'm talking about a different kind of independence though. To attract women, you must develop total independence from them. Sound confusing? It's not really.

Just tell yourself that no matter how good looking, intelligent, or witty the girl is, if she's not into you, you'll find someone who is. Knowing that will keep you from appearing needy, clingy or desperate. A woman's attention and approval is nice, but don't need it. 

Remember, we all want things we cannot have. Appear anxious or trying too hard and you automatically beg the question, "What's wrong with him?"

3. Appearance.

While men are visual creatures, women are more auditory. Yes, shocker: Men and women are physically different.

A study, completed in December 2013, reveals that women have a higher auditory and emotional response in social situations. So we will not necessarily notice your protruding ears or less-than-stellar abs.

However, the one thing women notice is your overall appearance. If you look like you don't care, why should she? You may only be able to afford one suit, but make sure it is a quality suit. And more importantly, your clothes have to fit your body type.

Today, most major stores perform alterations and there is always a tailor in your neighborhood. Whatever you do, make sure your clothes fit you like a glove. 

Not sure how to dress? Engage the services of a sales person in the men's department. That's why they are there. They love sharing their expertise and will be happy to dress you head to toe. Remember, women will notice and remember the way you look. So make sure you always look good enough to meet the love of your life.

Yes, there are a number of other nuances you can learn to attract women. Those are numerous and diverse, but none are as important as the three above. So, start here and let C.I.A. take your love life to a whole new level.

To learn more about attracting any woman you want, contact Marina Margulis at New York Socials via email or find out more about New York Socials.


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