We all want our guys to be happy, right? Sometimes we just don’t know what that is though. We try and try but sometimes it’s like stabbing in the dark.
To write this article, I turned to the expert, my husband. I wanted to know once and for all – what it is that makes men unhappy?
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There’s only five listed here, and not all of these make him unhappy, of course, but he said that these are the major ones that he thinks makes most men upset. It brought up a great discussion between my husband and I, so why not sit on the couch with your hubby and talk about these with him?
I’ve also included some tips on how to solve these relationship problems to help you out!
#1 Spends More Time Away from You
You gravitate towards people and things that make you the most happy. When your husband chooses to spend more time with his friends, working on his car, or doing some other activity than with you, it might signal that he is unhappy with you for some reason. He may be upset with you for some reason and isn’t talking to you about it because he doesn’t want to deal with the argument that will result from it.
What to do:
Approach him to ask him what’s up. He may tell you nothing is wrong at first. Don’t push him but instead give him a peck on the cheek, smile, give him a squeeze on the arm and tell him that you are around if he wants to talk about it. Let him also know that if he wants to talk about it that you will try not to get upset if it’s something that he believes you will become upset about.
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#2 You Reject Sex More Than You Accept It
You may have a good reason to reject it but if it seems like you are saying no all the time, you husband may start to feel unattractive and that can make him unhappy.
What to do:
When you reject sex, you can tell him that you can’t have it right then but at a later time. That way, you aren’t completely rejecting him. You can also initiate it sometimes. That will give him a super ego boost and make him feel much better.
#3 You Control His Spending
Men can be like kids in a candy store with their hobbies. If you pull on the reigns too much they can quickly go into deep sadness and tantrums. If it’s long enough, they can start to resent you and the marriage.
What to do:
Discuss what he wants to buy. Talk about how it’s possible to make it happen. If that means he has to find a second job, or that you have to budget to make it happen, then that might have to be a possibility. Marriage is a partnership. Just think, what if you were told you couldn’t have something you really wanted?