- If you want to be a passionate and sexy lover, be passionate and sexy in life! Live your life with wild abandon, go for what makes you happy and bring this quality to the bedroom.
- Learn to pleasure yourself and know what you want. Knowing your own body, knowing the time you need, the style you like, and what ecstasy you are capable of, will make you an empress of love. If you enter the sex act not knowing what brings you to orgasm, but hoping the man will do some magic to take you there, you are placing yourself in a weak position that will usually lead to frustration.
- Do not be afraid to say what you need, and fully expect to give it to yourself first. Do you want to be touched just so on your clitoris? Be the first one to do it. If you are without inhibition about it, your partner will soon catch on.
- Fantasies arise from different aspects of yourself, and are trying to teach you something. By understanding them and acting it out as a play rather than repressing them, you can be transformed. If your fantasy will not harm yourself or another, and your partner is willing to enter into it, then it can be fun to do it with self-acceptance and playfulness.
"I look for an interesting supporting part about once a year. That's the most I can manage. Some women can do it and that's fantastic, but I can't. You make choices as a wife and mother, don't you? You can't have it all. I don't care what it looks like," she said in an interview with U.K.’s InStyle magazine.