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The Secret To A More Fulfilling Sex Life

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The Secret To A More Fulfilling Sex Life
Stop, breathe in and be present for a moment.
Mindfulness is the key to connecting with your partner on a deeper level.

How often are you fully in the present moment when you're making love? Most people are not in the present moment. Instead, they're thinking about other things or getting lost in a fantasy. This takes us away from being present with our lover and from feeling every touch and sensation. Also, being goal-oriented (the climax), can take us away from being in the now with the whole process. This lack of mindfulness can lead to a sex life that's stale, repetitive and empty. Being in the present allows sex to stay meaningful.

Mindfulness means simply being in the present moment. Why is this so valuable? First of all, it's valuable because life is happening in the present moment. It is not happening in the past or the future, which is where we are if we are not in the now. It is only in the present moment that we can fully experience life. The present moment is where we truly connect with each other and experience true intimacy.

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Being mindful during sex can seem difficult at first. We are not always used to being mindful in what we do. It can help to start practicing mindfulness during simple activities such as washing the dishes or taking a shower. Be aware of the warmth of the water and how it feels on your skin. Practice doing this for a moment at a time. We can all stop and be present for a moment before thoughts take us away again. Even though it is our true nature to be resting in the present moment at all times, we have gotten out of alignment with that nature. Therefore, we have to retrain ourselves and apply this philosophy to our sex lives! Keep reading ...

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