6 Steps To Take If You Feel You Slept With Him A Little Too Soon

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Sex: What To Do If You Slept With Him A Little Too Soon
It's too late to go back, so how do you go forward?

He was playful, fun, loving and exciting. Things moved a little too fast: it's the third date and you've slept with him. Now what? Apart from not feeling quite so good about yourself, what can you do about it?

1. Foremost, Forgive Yourself
Many people have slept together in the very early stages of a relationship and have continued to stay together. It is your reaction to the event that will determine the outcome, so no regretting or being too hard on yourself. Go straight to the mirror and say the famous Louise L. Hay quote: "I love you anyway. All is well. Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of this situation only good will come. I am safe." Be kind, be nice, and pour a bubble bath. Be good to yourself.

 

2. Don't Change A Damn Thing
Have a good cry or scream, call your girlfriend or run the Olympics, but whatever you do, do not get into panic mode. Take a deep breath, stop obsessing and don't contact him out of impulse and fear. Don't Facebook stalk him or start any other form of nudging or stalking; this is all forbidden. Instead, relax. You are just getting into your own head because of a temporary blip along the road. One year from now, this problem won't be important.

3. Be Okay With The Outcome
Remember that men do what they want. If he values you, he will give you a call. If he does not follow up with you, you are going to be okay with that, too. Again, restrain yourself from making the initial contact just because you're panicking. He is probably blissfully thinking about something else, not concerning himself with what you are obsessing about. Your reaction here is crucial to how he follows up with you. Any panicked phone calls are going to turn him off. You cannot take back what happened, so be okay with it. You had fun, you felt comfortable and you enjoyed yourself. Meet him again with the same confidence and there won't be a problem.

4. Watch The Movie "He’s Just Not That Into You"
This will prevent you from doing anything crazy. Remember Gigi obsessing and waiting by the phone; do you want to be that girl? Remind yourself how awful it is to make a fool out of yourself. Laugh and cringe at Gigi's common mistakes and swear to yourself that you will not repeat them.

5. Learn From Your Mistakes
If the relationship doesn't work out, that is okay. We pick ourselves up and we learn from our mistakes. Next time you can choose to do things differently. Be okay with it, easy breezy. After all, you're human, and he was cute, right?

6. Know The Facts
Most relationships fail anyway, which is why it is important to date often so that you can learn from your mistakes. Try different skills and find out what you like. Find out what works and doesn't work and practice becoming great at relationships. Have fun and enjoy yourself — it's part of the life experience!

And The Burning Questions: When Do You Have Sex With Someone?
When to sleep with someone is a great question. I don't believe there is any set time limit. Men do tend to value women more when they take the time to get to know them little by little, though. My best advice to you is taken from Evan Marc Katz: "Your sole responsibility before having sex is to figure out if he’s interested in YOU or in SEX. If you don’t know the answer, don’t have sex. If you think you know the answer, then have sex. And if you can’t handle the emotional consequences of making an occasional mistake, you probably shouldn’t sleep with anyone until you’re in a committed relationship." And remember, you can't go wrong with the right guy!

To get your free report, 15 Biggest Mistakes That Keep You Attracting The Badboy, visit my website. Want to read more? Check out my advice for a woman on how to tell if he the right guy for you.

Read more by Lorna Poole: 3 Ways To Find Out If He's The Right Guy For You.

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