Sexting is common among teenagers, but with politicians too?
Should we forgive Anthony Weiner? In June 2011, Congressman Anthony Weiner made national news sexting a picture of his penis in boxer shorts. Immature? Yes. Obnoxious? Yes. Humiliating for his wife? I would think so. He promised to never do anything like this again.
Then in 2012 he appeared with his wife and child in a national news magazine saying he is a new man.
This summer, 2013, the news came out that he continues sexting three to ten other women, depending on the story you read, sending explicit messages and pictures of his now naked penis, which I assume he is very proud of and this becomes national news. He calls these women his "fans." He does not call this sexual harassment. With his wife standing next to him yet again, saying they went to therapy and she forgives him, he admits he is getting help for this, but it is not an addiction.
So I have to question if this is not an addiction, why can't he stop? And just how much time is this man spending sexting pictures and lewd sexual descriptions to 10 different women? Men tell me that one woman is about all they can handle! When does he have time to work? I have to question why in the world anyone would vote for this, dare I say, man? His lack of integrity is appalling and to trust him, New Yorkers would have to be incredibly naive, which I know them not to be!
Yes, men in power have huge egos and think they are beyond the rules written for the rest of us. We know this, but usually the dirt comes out after they are in office, not progressively over a two year period leading to one of the largest mayor races in the country. Interestingly, his wife, Huma Abedin, is an aid to Hillary Clinton, who also forgave her man. I have always admired Hillary Clinton’s strength in forgiving her husband’s infidelity, however, we as a nation are not picking a husband, we are picking representatives. It’s hard to imagine choosing a representative who spends so much time on facebook and twitter sending his penis out to his so called fans.
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As a man, we can all see Weiner is a rather pathetic replica of a man. We can in fact, feel sorry for him and his lovely wife, as they are clearly struggling with some serious infidelity issues. He needs to face the severity of his problem, fix this marriage, get therapy, not be out there trying to run New York City.
We can forgive him, but we do not have to trust him. And we do not need to be the karma police. Forgiveness does not mean we forget. Forgiveness does not mean to stupidly trust over and over. It also doesn't mean we condone his poor behavior. When we see a pattern of misbehavior, we do not have to engage in it to forgive. Forgiveness means that we accept the fact that he has a problem and with that being said, we can let go of the need to punish, to retaliate, to change what has been done.
Forgiveness, yes of course. Mayor, absolutely not.Lori S. Rubenstein, JD, PCC spent 18 years as a divorce attorney-mediator, however, her passion for helping others led her down the path of divorce, relationship and forgiveness coaching. She is the author of three transformational books and has a special gift of holding sacred space for people to transcend their “stories” and step into a new, more empowering life. Contact Lori now to set up a 15 minute consultation to learn how you can start to mend your own relationship hurts