This past weekend, at the official launch of my new book, I ran into an old friend I hadn't seen in years. She told me, with head bowed, that she was going through a transition. She was getting divorced. She felt lost. She didn't know what to do.
Is that how you feel? I certainly felt that way when I left my marriage of 10 years. After defining myself as half of a couple for so long, I didn't have a clue who I was outside of that relationship. It was scary. But, it was also exhilarating!
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When my friend told me what she was going through, I held her hands, looked her in the eye and said, "This is wonderful. It's your time for a fresh start. You have the opportunity to create a new life that excites you, starting today."
Here is a seven-step process designed to guide you through the next leg of your journey and to get you excited about the future that lies ahead:
1. Get present. Find a quiet space where you can sit, uninterrupted and clear your mind of all the clutter. In the present moment, there are no issues. There is simply beautiful you. It is time you get to know her better. Give this gift to yourself.
2. Get real. Ask yourself, "What is really happening right now?" Now listen for the answer, devoid of emotion. Accept responsibility for the role you played to create this current reality. When you accept the truth, you tap into the power to change what you don't like.
3. Get over it. In a place of blame and judgment, there is no room for possibility. Surrender your need to be right. Know that everything happens for a reason, and express gratitude for the opportunity to learn and grow from every situation, good and bad. Shed light on your limiting beliefs and then release them so you may heal and move on.
4. Get clear. Visualize yourself living a new life, fully empowered and self-expressed. See the details in your life and feel how it would be to live a life that is reflective of your core values and dreams. Stretch yourself. Know that you can create what you desire.
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