I have always been a very positive, outgoing woman but I've lived most of my life without positive female friendships. So, I decided to make a concerted effort to cultivate friendships with healthy, inspiring, communicative women, and here's what I have learned:
1. Like attracts like. So, you must become the type of woman you want to befriend. To avoid needy women, don't be needy. If you want confident friends, you'll need to exude confidence yourself.
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This first step has great benefits because when you become the type of woman you want as a friend, you become your own first, positive female friend. Think about it. If you want to be around someone who is inspiring, has confidence, lives with purpose and has developed healthy communication, just think of the great company you'll be in when you become that woman. As Dr. Wayne Dyer says, "You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with."
Becoming your own best friend is extra important because attracting positive female friendships may take some time. You may need to go alone to social functions occasionally until you attract the friends you seek. It will be much more fun and will help build your confidence if, in addition to feeling good about yourself, you feel good being with yourself.
2. Take your time and trust the process. Write down the characteristics you want in a friend. We already discussed a few good ones above so feel free to start with those. Then, visualize a fun lunch date at a coffee shop or a weekend getaway with your girlfriends. Maybe you'd like to begin with single female friends so you can bounce around dating strategies together.
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Remember that friendship is a process. You will get to encourage and support your friends and they will do the same for you. Sometimes the conversation will be equal and sometimes it will be all about the one of you who needs some help. As you become the woman you want to be, this will become a piece of cake. Keep reading ...
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