There are a few major milestones in life—or rites of passage—that change your life forever. These milestones include going to college, getting your first real job, living by yourself for the first time, getting married and unfortunately for about half of you, getting divorced. Each of these represents a major change in your life that either helps you focus your path in a specific direction (like getting your first job or getting married) or breaks you out of your existing path altogether. Divorce definitely falls into the latter category. Depending upon your individual circumstances, separation and divorce can be like a bomb going off in your life. Let a divorce coach help put the pieces back together.
KABOOM! Your life will never be the same again. Everything you knew is gone. So, what does that mean for you now? What does it mean for your future? You have some important decisions to make, and yet you are stuck in pain and confusion. You are paralyzed by your loss and fear of the future. You are coping with what this all means for yourself and your children. You are lost with no sense of direction. You need help. You need clarity to envision a new life for yourself. You need empowerment to help you build that new life. And you need a cheerleader to root for you along the way.
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What resources are available to you?
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Unfortunately, not many. Divorce is an industry. And as such, there are scores of experts focused on helping you get divorced—mediators, divorce attorneys, financial coaches and collaborative law firms (with their own mediators, coaches and psychologists). All have valuable knowledge and experience within their distinct area of specialization, but quite frankly, they are limited to advising you on the law. Their only goal is to get you divorced regardless of the emotional rollercoaster you are on. Getting divorced is definitely a milestone, but your goal is to have a better life. You need to focus on the big picture in this process and frankly, your attorney can't help you with that. It also isn't a smart use of your money. Every minute you spend venting with your divorce attorney is costing you—A LOT!
And therapy isn't an ideal fit either. Therapy focuses on the past to explain the present. You can't change the past, though. So, while this approach might help you make some sense of out of what happened, it rarely gets you to a place of clarity around what you want now and in the future. And it rarely provides action steps to help you create the life you want. You need inspiration to move forward and therapy might keep you in the past spinning your wheels.