Ending a relationship is heartbreaking. Whether it's a mutual decision or one-sided, navigating life without your partner, especially if you've been together for years, can be very difficult. You will most likely find yourself thinking of him, wishing things could be different, wondering if you made the right decision or hoping that he will call.
Perhaps you were no longer compatible, maybe you brought out the worst in each other. Whatever the reason, just know that your relationship served a purpose. Just because the romance ended does not mean your life has to. You can learn from this experience and you can let go.
Dwelling on the past isn't constructive. In fact, it's quite debilitating. It can keep you stuck for days, weeks, months or even years. Of course, I'm not suggesting you can never reminisce. It's vital to be thankful and appreciate all the joy you and your partner once shared.
While it's important to remember the good times, it is equally essential to remind yourself of those bad times without holding onto blame or resentment and recall the reasons you are no longer together. This way, you can move forward. 8 Signs You Need To Break Up With Your Ex
Here are 5 ways to navigate your life without him:
1. Find Yourself. Use this time as an opportunity to get to know yourself again. It is super easy to lose a piece of your identity while being in a relationship.
Before hopping into the next one, get clear on who you are. What are your values? What boundaries do you hold sacred? What do you want out of your life? What are your hopes? Your dreams? Your desires? What kind of relationship do you really want?
This is also a time where it is imperative to take good care of yourself. Eat well, move your body, find things to do that excite you. Participate in things you have been putting off. Try something new. Learn to enjoy spending time alone. 7 Songs To Help You Stay Active And Healthy After A Breakup
2. Practice Forgiveness. Letting go of the frustrations, resentment, anger and guilt of what feels like a "failed relationship" isn't serving you. Start practicing forgiveness. Let go of the events that led to your breakup, release those hurtful words you said to each other and choose to shake off the negative energy that surrounded the whole situation.
You do not have to define your life by how you've been hurt or by the fact that you may have hurt someone else. You can forgive him and yourself without denying the responsibility you both played in the demise of the relationship. Remember - "To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness." - Robert Muller Forgiveness: A Powerful Tool After A Breakup
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