Stopping School Violence One Child At A Time


Stopping School Violence One Child At A Time
Gun control won't do it. Tougher sentencing won't do it. It's about relationships.

In light of the recent tragedy at the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newton, CT, it's past time to take a look at what causes these tragedies to occur.

I've heard a sharp public call for stricter gun control but that won't stop the violence. A person driven to kill will find whatever means are available to him at the time. Stricter penalties won't do it because a person in a murderous rage isn't thinking about consequences.


People will criticize this article because it isn't focused on the victims. Some will say they don't care about what motivates killers. However, it's too late to rescue the shooting victims of Sandy Hook. It is my hope to help any future victims before they become victims by looking at the underlying causes. [If you are interested in learning more about Empowerment Parenting, sign up and get my free parenting report.]

You will find if you look at other school shootings that most, if not all, shooters were either taking psychotropic medication or just being weaned from it. This medication is prescribed far too frequently to children and young adults in spite of known unintended effects, such as suicidal and homicidal ideation.

The pharaceutical companies have become way too powerful. They fund the research and determine what results get reported to the general public and what doesn't but that is not the subject of this article. If you'd like to learn more, check out the Citizen's Commission on Human Rights.

Why do psychiatrists prescribe drugs with known negative effects? Because it is what they know to do that might help the situation. However, prescribing psychotropic meds is similar to offering Novacain for tooth decay. The person may feel better but the underlying cause is still present and will get worse.

It is time to stop drugging our children to fit in some mold of what we determine is normal. And instead start paying attention to what is creating the problems in the first place.

People who go on a murderous rampage, generally have two underlying causes, both of which would be prevented by attention, patience and acceptance. The two underlying causes are either a lack of any meaningful relationships with any adult and/or a profound feeling of being totally and completely powerless.

This is not solely the fault of the parents, relatives or teachers. We all bear responsibility for this. How many of us can name a child in our circle of influence that we basically ignore?

Children need five basic needs met in order to thrive. Having a serious deficit in any of these basic human needs will lead to creative behavior designed to get the unmet need met. Sometimes that behavior will be responsible and other times not. People always come up with the best option they can conceive of at the time.

Children need love and connection with others in their lives. The typical school shooter, if there is such a thing, tends to be disconnected and lacking empathy but is not necessarily the person who is always in trouble. Usually, they are the quiet, withdrawn children that no one notices. Pay attention.

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Kim Olver


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