The common belief, when it comes to depression, is that it is something over which we have no control. Things happen, and we have no choice but to become depressed. Some have argued it's a disease with brain chemistry out of whack, and others believe there may be a genetic predisposition. I have a different theory based on my work with clients; my study of the legendary work of Dr. William Glasser and the subsequent development of my own process, called InsideOut Empowerment™.
InsideOut Empowerment tells us that all behavior is purposeful. There is nothing we do that isn't designed to get us something we want, including depression. I'm not saying this is a conscious plot on an individual's part to become depressed so he or she can accomplish some goal. The purpose of one's depressing is typically outside the person's awareness, however, it is there nonetheless. Ten Ways To Improve Your Mental Health EXPERT
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Why is this so important? Because once a person recognizes he or she is subconsciously choosing to depress to accomplish a goal, then he or she can consciously choose something different once he or she understands how behavior works. Does Your Baby's Father Have Postpartum EXPERT
Think about the last time you were depressed or, if you've been depressed for a long period of time, think about when your depression started. Your creative system manufactured depression as a way of helping you to be successful. That may sound ludicrous to some because you are wondering how depression could possibly be helpful since it is so debilitating. Want To Know What Makes A Happy Relationship EXPERT
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I'm not disputing the horrors of depression; they are many. However, there are also many benefits to depression. Here are some possibilities:
- Gain attention;
- Get help without having to ask for it;
- Freedom from responsibilities;
- Control or guilt other people into doing what you want;
- Slow down life so you can plan a course of action;
- Protection from homicidal or suicidal actions (when depressed you often don’t have the energy or clarity of thinking necessary to formulate a plan and carry it through);
- Freedom from interacting with others who may disapprove of you and/or your actions.
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