The choice is yours.
Statistics show younger people are more likely to have children than to get married. Older people who are getting involved romantically are finding less and less reasons to get married.
So why has marriage gotten such a bad reputation? Here's why people don't want to get married:
- With the divorce rate at more than 50 percent, people don't have a lot of faith that marriage offers any kind of security anymore.
- People have been living alone long enough to find it difficult to share living space again.
- People are living longer. It's hard to imagine being with one person for the rest of one's life.
- People want partners who are with them out of choice rather than obligation or a marriage license.
- People don't trust the promise marriage once held.
- People don't want to share their assets.
- People choose not to commit to maintain their freedom.
But just as there are reasons to not get married, there are other reasons to take the plunge and at least commit to an exclusive relationship.
- In exclusive relationships, there's no risk of sexually transmitted disease.
- Some believe a person can learn more about themselves in a committed relationship and can experience great personal growth.
- Companionship is a reason many get in exclusive relationships.
- Marriage can provide stability for children.
- People can save money on sharing expenses.
- A deep connection of trust and faith can develop in a long-term committed relationship.
- People may make a commitment so they aren't alone.
Naturally, there are many reasons on each side. There's no right or wrong, although everyone you know probably has a strong opinion about what you should do, regardless of your personal preferences. Each person must decide for him or herself what will best meet his or her needs.
If you're in a relationship, it's important for you to communicate your position to your partner. Whether or not you want to be in an exclusive, committed relationship is information your partner has a right to know. If you prefer to maintain your independence, then your partner has a right to know. If you're a person looking for an exclusive life partner, your partner has a right to know that, too.
When you're honest with the person you're dating, it provides you both an opportunity to make the best decision for his situation.
Transparency in relationships is a piece that's often missing. We fear that if we're transparent, our significant other won't want to be with us anymore. However, if you have to pretend to be something you aren't to maintain your current relationship, perhaps that relationship isn't the right one for you.
This article was originally published at InsideOut Empowerment. Reprinted with permission from the author.