How To Meet New People... By Changing Your Attitude


How To Meet New People... By Changing Your Attitude
No one out there to meet? No way!
Meeting new people starts with opening your mind and heart to exciting new relationships.

It's normal to feel stuck in life at various times. When this happens, we have two choices: stay stuck or take responsibility for moving forward, even through the discomfort that comes with the unknown. Some people stay stuck for years or decades; some just long enough to recognize they're stuck before moving on. And some never move on, allowing beliefs that no longer serve them to dictate their lives. An example of one of these beliefs is, "I get what I deserve so this must be all I'm worth." In addition to this attitude defeating us, it's simply a false statement. We have the ability to change our circumstances and therefore our future.

One of the best ways to move forward when you feel stuck in a career, relationship, health goals, social life, spirituality or family is to learn how to meet new people who can inspire you, and act as positive role models. Therefore, you're seeking people who are moving forward in the area of life in which you want to progress. Here is where changing your attitude makes all the difference. Let me give you some examples.

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Feeling Stuck In Your Health Goals?
You do the same thing every day, and it usually consists of worrying about everything you eat, focusing on how much weight you'll gain from that French fry that's calling your name or starving yourself. Still the pounds stay put. Every morning, you look in the mirror and feel tired and frustrated about your continuous battle with weight. New diets, new pills and new workouts haven't worked, and now you are dressed for work feeling defeated and depressed even before you leave home.

You need to meet new people, and not the ones who will commiserate with you about weighty issues. You're looking for those who are positive-minded and know that a healthy mind and healthy emotions equate to a healthy body. They may participate in fun outdoor activities or be inspiring accountability partners to work out with at the gym. They may just be a movie or coffee group. The key is, they are people you look forward to being with because you feel so good about yourself when you’re around them and vice-versa.

Change your attitude from, "I hate the way I look; I'm fat and I'll never loose this weight," to "I feel good about myself and meet fun, healthy people." See how the weight loss issue isn't even included in the new attitude? When you begin feeling better about yourself as a person, you'll notice progress in achieving your health goals. The universal law of vibration states that what you think about, you bring about. It works 24/7 whether you choose to believe it or not; it always has. Example: when you focus on weighing too much and how bad you think you look, you get more of both.

The new people you meet need to have a healthy attitude so take your time in finding them. They don't have to be in a weight-loss group because those people are likely focused on extra weight like you were when things weren't working. Remember the law of vibration. The key is meeting the right new people, otherwise you'll just stay stuck with a bunch of other stuck people, and you deserve better.

Where do you meet new people? They could be in a Meetup group in your area. has a variety of activities available in most areas and is free. A yoga or meditation group to get you focused on what you do want may do you much more good than a weight-loss group that has you focusing on weight you don't want. Remember the law of vibration is always in effect. The internet has local websites for groups and organizations who meet regularly, and sites like Facebook are great catalogues to scour for like-minded people.

Unhappy In Your Career?
Day after miserable day you sit in traffic to get to a job you resent for making you feel bitter, and coworkers you wouldn't hang out with by choice. So much effort goes into every day of work and you feel your life slipping away with little to show for it. What happened to your dreams? What happened to loving what you do, living your passion and enjoying people you work with? All of that is waiting for you, and if you're not living your best life yet, start now by changing your attitude and learning how to meet new people.

Change your attitude from, "I hate my job working for people who don't respect me... and I dread Mondays," to "My ideal career is waiting for me and I'm going to meet new people who can ultimately lead me to new opportunities that reveal my bright future."

Commiserating with coworkers and friends is what most people do by default, and this negative energy permeates every area of your life — including relationships. Is that really the energy you want to blanket your future with?

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Changing your attitude to possibility-thinking will reawaken the previously bright light at the end of your tunnel that represented your future but now looks like a freight train heading straight for you. A new attitude of, "This career is winding down and I'm open to new possibilities, regardless of the current job market," will help you meet new people quickly. Most of your new friends and acquaintances will be possibility thinkers as well, because your positive energy and new belief will only attract forward-moving, proactive people. Negative people won't be attracted to someone who finds the best in situations because it makes them uncomfortable. However, if you do happen to catch a negative one in the mix, release him or her back into the wild as soon as possible. That one is a catch and release. You're headed in a positive direction and they will only dampen your dreams. Keep reading...

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Kelly Rudolph
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