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Kathe Skinner (LMFT,MA)
I specialize in restoring the magic to couples who are like you: intelligent, creative, and committed to themselves and each other. Like Cinderella and Prince Charming, you've lost your glass slipper. See, once those mice stopped singing and the birds stopped helping Cindy with hair ribbons, life around the castle looked pretty much the same as it does at your house. Fights about stupid things, sleeping on the sofa, not talking, no intimacy. They lost the magic, sure the fairy tale was over.
Fairy tales aren't real — not for long, anyway — we all know that. But the magic can always be there. I helped Cindy and Prince find a new and better glass slipper, one that fits now; I can help you find yours, too.
Like a fairy godmother, I reassure you that you're not "sick" or "crazy" (although at times you might feel that way). You're not DIAGNOSABLE, you don't need THERAPY, your relationships isn't DONE FOR. I ought to know: I've been a Marriage & Family therapist for over 16 years. It takes two healthy partners to make a relationship work which is why I won't work with clients where there is any form of abuse (chemical, physical, mental) or where there is mental illness preventing the relationship from being healthy. That makes me a Relationship Coach, which insurance does not pay for.
I've spent a career working with individuals, couples, families; I get it. From experience and understanding, I've created unique, innovative approaches that point the way back to relationship magic.
• to care for yourself and your partner at the same time
• to replace a bad fight with a good one
• to communicate better
• to express yourself in a non-threatening, blaming way
• to avoid mismatching talking and listening styles
• to get on the same page…quickly!
• to take yourself off auto-pilot
• to restore intimacy
• to disagree agreeably
• to each get what you want
• to solve relationship problems
• to be glad you and your partner are together
• to have hope for your relationship’s future
These are the programs that make it happen:
• 6-Week Couple Communication Class (Front Range Colorado only
• Action Plan based on the strengths and weaknesses you actually “see”;
compare to a sphere you create weeks down the road (Thrive Spheres)
• Graph satisfaction over time individually, interpersonally, socially, and overall (Client
Directed Outcome Informed measurement tool)
• Identify and overcome the hold family of origin experiences (Schema
• Get off auto-pilot to actively choose how you think and behave
• Use movies to find perspective and understanding for both self and
partner (Cinema Work)
• Education on a range of relevant topics to couples (Teleseminar Series)
• Retreats that entice, relax and educate; held in vacation-like settings
• Free, 24/7 access to quizzes, lunch ‘n’ learns, videos, site- protected
private journaling, and much, much more (Mental Health Pros)
• Choice of Couples Coaching Plans that offer flexibility in cost, number
and format of contacts, topic
I give you humor, honesty, sincere caring, a firm hand to guide, warmth. I tune in to you; teach to your style and pace of learning; no cookie cutters. I promise to believe in you in exchange for you believing in yourself and your relationship. I will push you hard and offer all my skill and knowledge in order to help you reach the goal you've set — you decide the goal, not me.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
I awfulize, I know it. You can call me a half-empty kind of gal and I won't argue.
So when I remarried one evening and moved 2,000 miles away the next day, you can guess how awful such an enormous change felt. New street signs, finding the right grocery store, re-establishing doctor-dentist-hairdresser relationships. Without having my business transfer well, I felt I was starting over. I hung out on the ends of lots of limbs, but I couldn't find what was next for my life.
After awhile, I made friends and came to love the endless vista of Colorado's plains. Then the accident happened.
Friends' two-year-old daughter and her little brother were in mom's car when it was hit on an icy road. The little boy had cuts and bruises; the little girl was paralyzed from the neck down. She couldn't breathe, move, or speak. I imagined the look in her eyes, when we visited, to hold fear and confusion. How can anyone make sense of something like this? It doesn't matter to whom, but to this beautiful, golden child?
When she died a year later, I experienced the most intense grief I've felt before or since, and passed a year immersed in it. What I finally came to was that while I could do nothing to give a "voice" to that little girl, I could help others "speak" their helplessness and pain.
That's why I returned to school in my 40's to attain a Master's Degree in Psychology with an Emphasis on Marriage, Family & Child Therapy. I've since come to understand that my grief and terror about what happened to that little girl triggered in me a recognition from my own childhood of believing I was "unable to speak".
Over $120 per session