Your Diabetes & Your Life: How To Take Control Of Both

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It all comes down to who's in control: you or the disease.

When you're diabetic, it can feel like your entire life revolves around a disease ... like no one understands the highs and lows or what it does to your body and your emotions. You think people assume you caused it yourself by being overweight. Meanwhile, you have to think about everything you eat, when you eat it and then what it's going to do to you ... and everyone else gets to do whatever they want!

Have you ever just not wanted to check your blood sugar because you're tired and frustrated? After all, checking your sugars means piercing your fingers repeatedly. At the same time, you dread the reaction you're going to get from your doctor for not following his/her instructions. Have you ever just wanted a break from your medication? You hate facing the scars on your stomach from your pump or your injections, but if you skip your meds, your sugar levels get out of control.

Good news: you're not alone. You may feel alone because diabetes generally isn't discussed. Or, perhaps you don't know anyone else with diabetes. You might even feel alone if you do know someone with diabetes who seems to have it under control. How To Manage Depression Without Meds

I counsel people with diabetes and run a group for diabetic women, and what I hear over and over again is how angry they are at the disease. They feel frustrated about not having control over their own bodies, and they admit that they don't feel like they are worth all the trouble.

It all comes down to who's in control: you or the disease. The first thing to do is accept that it's a part of your life. Remember: true control comes from the way that you care for yourself. When you don't care for yourself properly, the disease takes control. Unfortunately, you're stuck with it for life. Ask yourself what the goal is that you're going accomplish by fighting it. Will you prove something to someone? Will you hurt yourself? It's easy to feel like a kid who has no say and the only thing to do is stomp your feet and declare an objection. Trust me: every diabetic I've spoken to has felt this way at some point.

To take control of your diabetes you must be willing to see yourself as worthy. Get into the habit by congratulating yourself when you do something good. Take moments throughout the day to notice the things you've done well. When you notice your mind going in a negative direction, gently set it back on track by putting the thought aside and changing it to something more accepting. If you forget to check your sugar, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself rather than telling yourself how lazy you are.

It's hard work, but if you can do it, you will find that you're taking care of yourself, which will make you feel better and make it easier for you to care for others. Being diabetic is a frustrating thing to bear and something that has to be attended to every day. So it makes sense that you would get tired of it and want a break. Remind yourself that you are in charge, not the diabetes ...  and you are worth doing the work to cope with this disease that you never wanted in the first place.

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Kate Evans

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In my practice I help women rediscover their inner strength and overcome the fears and sadness that can come with forgetting to care for youself in addition to everyone else.

I'm looking forward to helping you. Give me a call for a free 30-minute phone consultation.

Location: St Charles, IL
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