3 Necessary Steps You Must Take To Begin Depression Recovery

Love, Self

Depression affects all aspects of life, including relationships.

Have you experienced what it's like to be in a relationship with someone who is suffering from depression, or maybe the depressed partner has been you? Have you blamed yourself or felt you may be the cause of their unhappiness? Have you felt lost in how to reach your partner emotionally? If so you are not alone; there are many women just like you struggling to deal with this scenario on a daily basis.

At any one time, a significant percentage of the population are suffering depression and/or anxiety, and many are undiagnosed. There are specific causes, with the most prevalent being lifestyle choices. When we live in an anxious state with our nervous system going crazy day after day, we deplete our body and become exhausted. Depression begins to creep in under our conscious awareness.

We begin to lose our joy for life; nothing really seems worth it, we begin to stay home more, letting go of our self-care and gradually feeling more and more empty without understanding how we got there. Very simply, living in an anxious state causes us to live in our heads, and in doing so we lose connection with our body. Living this way creates an emptiness, an emptiness we call depression.

How does this affect our relationships? When we connect deeply with another we let our guard down, open up and let them in and the recipient does likewise. If we are living in our head or disconnected to our body this is very difficult. You can’t simply open up your head to let someone in; it needs to come from ALL of you.

If your partner is depressed, it can feel like they are not there or not themselves and can be very challenging to deal with, to say the least! If this is you, there is hope! There is a way back to finding yourself again; you can never lose yourself, so to speak, you just lose connection.

1. Important! Do not use this as an opportunity to beat yourself up.

This has been your method of coping with life and your feelings to date. View yourself in a compassionate light with love and respect for where you are at, at present.

2. Find a professional or a trusted friend you can speak openly and honestly with so you can start to deal with what's troubling you.

Burying our issues does not resolve them and will only cause us further distress, which encourages other self-harming behaviors such as binge eating, alcohol and drug abuse or even overuse of internet and social media in an attempt to distract and self-medicate.

3. Develop conscious presence.

Conscious presence is about living your daily life in the fullness of who you are. Body and mind aligned to the task at hand. If you are at the kitchen bench chopping carrots, let it be with all of you, your mind focused on precisely what the body is doing, not off thinking about that argument you had with your partner yesterday and who was right and who was wrong.

With conscious presence, we are in connection with our body, and we develop a fullness and a knowledge of what is needed and what to do in any given moment. It's not easy at first, but a great way to begin is to focus breathing gently in and out through your nose and let that be your focus for a few minutes.

Depression does not have to be a condition that you are condemned with and powerless to change,. Through seeking assistance and making different choices you can once again find that spark of light that is you and always has been. It is through connecting with this light that we can find true joy, harmony and love in our relationships. And we are all definitely worth that!


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