Have you ever been interested in, or worse, in love with a man and he leaves for no apparent reason? Maybe it’s because you’re a High Maintenance woman and don’t realize it.
Men are ever-watchful to avoid getting involved with High Maintenance women. Let me explain why it’s one of the worst things you can do if you want a man to fall in love with you and STAY in love.
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You’ve heard of High Maintenance women but do you know what that means? Hopefully, after I explain this sad malady, you’ll cleanse any HM behavior you might be doing without realizing it so you no longer scare men off.
A High Maintenance woman needs everything to be just right. For example, she’s extremely particular what restaurant she needs to be taken to, then what table she needs to sit at and needs her food prepared just so.
With all those needs, she’s going to point out when things aren’t right. Most men won’t go on a second date with this kind of woman because it doesn’t feel good to be around her. NOTE: Bottom line, men want to be with a woman who makes him feel good. But some women keep this behavior under tight wraps at first, trying to put their best stiletto forward. But when her needs are this extreme, they squish out eventually, and often in some pretty ugly ways.
That’s when the guy starts heading for the door. It’s pretty obvious to spot this kind of woman and even more obvious why a man would not want to get involved with her. Even her women friends can handle only so much of her self-centered behavior.
But what about the Stealth High Maintenance woman? This kind of woman sneaks up on a man, so he doesn’t realize what he’s getting himself into. All he knows is that he doesn’t feel good to be around her.
So how do you define a SHM woman? She lets her date know in subtle ways that he’s disappointing her. She sighs when she says, “Sure, that restaurant will be just fine.” But he can tell that he’s blowing it, he just doesn’t quite know why. And for a while, he’ll try hard to please her. And the more he’s attracted to her, the harder and longer he’ll try.
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But eventually, she wears away at his sense of masculinity. He realizes that she’s a bottomless pit and will never be happy. One of the Secrets about men that I reveal in Men Made Easy is, “If you’re not happy, he’s a failure.” Men hate to fail. I’ve asked many men over the years why they left their wife or girlfriend and what they say, with body language that shows their sense of failure, “I couldn’t make her happy.” Another important thing I teach in this book is the concept of Feminine Grace. A high maintenance woman cannot be gracious because she’s too self-centered.
A High Maintenance woman doesn’t get second, or for sure, third dates very often. She doesn’t understand why and neither does he. What’s going on is she’s unaware of the most powerful strategy for getting and keeping a man’s interest.