4 Tips To Improve Your Sex Life


4 Tips To Improve Your Sex Life [EXPERT]
Learn to share your sexual fantasies with your partner with these easy tips.

Sharing your fantasies with your partner is an important first step to bringing them to life. If you don't talk about what you want, how are you ever going to get it? There are a variety of ways to have this conversation but the main goal is to get these sexy thoughts out of your head and into real life! Tips For Improving Your Orgasm!

1. Settle in for a sexy evening of naughty talk. Put the lights down low, get in close contact with one another and start talking! You can do a word association, each of you saying a word that turns you on with your partner responding with a word that turns them until you're both feeling hot and heavy. This takes the pressure off of forming coherent sentences or spelling out your desires.

 2. Read to each other. With ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ being sold in book stores, airports and even grocery stores it can be an easy way to introduce kinky fantasies. But that's not the only sexy read available, not by a long shot! Look for erotica online, print out your favorite parts and leave them as notes for each other during the day. Or take turns reading the hottest portions out loud to each other at the end of the night while you snuggle in bed. Who knows where your verbal foreplay might take you…50 Shades of Grey Fantasy Giveaway

3. Use your journal to start a sexy conversation. Keep a blank notebook next to your bed or in a drawer, with a pen handy. When you have a hot thought, jot it down to be shared later. You can either use the journal to read to one anotheror to take a peek into your partner's fantasies without having to actually speak out loud about it. This can be a particularly helpful technique if one or both partners are shy.

4. Explore dirty talk while you're fooling around. Start to explore making-out again, without the pressure of following it all the way to climax. Kiss each other passionately and whisper sexy words into each other's ears. If you do it in the dark you might feel less inhibited so you can really let your imagination fly.

However you choose to share your sexy thoughts is up to what works for you and your partner. But starting to use any of these techniques will make it easier for both of you to enjoy more adventurous erotic encounters. 5 Secrets Of Happily Married Couples

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