Hating your body just fuels the fire. Stop it!
So many of us learned that the path to change is paved with hard criticism of what’s wrong. (And then you keep making it wrong until it changes.) But this is a problematic misconception because ... it doesn’t work!
And when it comes to weight, you cannot criticize yourself thin. Plus, if you’re one of the millions who struggle with emotional eating, self-criticism actually fuels the fire that drives you to overeat (ack!)
But, there is a completely different way to go about weight loss. It's called — loving your body. But not in the way that you’re thinking. This isn’t about waiting to love your body once you see a specific number on your bathroom scale. Instead, I propose that you confidently love your body NOW — lumps, bumps and all!
This is a counter-intuitive way to lose weight, I realize. But it works. Here are seven powerful ways to lose weight while loving your overweight body right now:
1. Drop all self-criticism
Yep, I know this is a biggie, but continuing to criticize your body and berate yourself only leads to more emotional eating (in an attempt to make yourself feel better). And we all know the results that follow: More weight gain and more disappointment in yourself, which only feeds the cycle you desperately want to end.
2. Release your fear of staying fat
This is the number one reason my coaching clients struggle to stop criticizing themselves prior to working with me. They fear that if they stop criticizing their fat and stop beating themselves up about their overeating, they'll stay overweight forever.
Not true! The way out of this is to let go of that fear.
3. Be kinder to yourself
Start with baby steps and take just five minutes each day to do something nice for yourself that has nothing to do with food. Why will this help you lose weight?
Just like all seven of these tips, the more conscious, positive, loving action you aim towards yourself, the easier it becomes to live a healthy lifestyle. Let’s face it — the ONLY solution for permanent weight loss is a healthy lifestyle.
But … you must live that healthy lifestyle daily. And a healthy lifestyle does not include emotional eating, binge eating, or yo-yo dieting. Start with being nice to yourself and see how much easier it becomes to live healthy and fit!
4. Release all fat-hate
The more negativity, hate, and shame you feel about the excess fat on your body today, the stronger the pull to KEEP it there. This doesn’t mean you're consciously holding the fat on your body, but research shows that 90 percent of weight loss is about what’s going on inside of you.
If you never address your Inner Self and heal the root of what drives your food addictions and binge eating, then it won’t matter how many food diets you start. So, let go of fat hate. Really, the fat on your body is just … fat. It’s not good or bad, unless you deem it so.
Please understand, I'm in no way encouraging you to remain overweight — you really can achieve struggle-free permanent weight loss once you heal your Inner Self, just like my coaching clients do. But the way to achieve this outcome is never found through hating your fat.
5. Find one thing you LOVE about your body NOW
Find just one thing you love about your body right now and start focusing on that one thing every single day. Pause to focus on it, admire it, appreciate it. Do this instead of focusing on your jeans size or the number on the scale.
You'll begin to feel better about your body more often! Why is this good? Because feeling bad only perpetuates the cycle of overeating and overweight, and that’s no fun, is it? (Nope!) See what shifts with your eating when you consciously maintain your focus on the one thing you truly love about your body.
6. Choose a healthy lifestyle as an act of self-love
You’ve probably heard this before: Love is not a noun, it’s a verb. Love is all about action, not telling someone you love them. There are women in abusive relationships right now, who hear the words "I love you", but their partner's actions do not match those words.
Take a look at the actions you direct towards yourself. What if you decided that living a healthy lifestyle is an act of self-love? What if living healthy and fit were your choice instead feeling like they're being forced on you because you hate your overweight body so much?
Remember, body hate, fat-hate, and binge-eating shame are not found on the path of permanent weight loss.
7. Commit to loving YOURSELF today
Society has a lot of opinions about men (and women) with commitment issues when it comes to relationships. But what is your current commitment to yourself and your body? What is your commitment to embracing your body right now so that living a healthy lifestyle becomes easy (versus about trying to free yourself from some kind of horror you’re living in an overweight body)?
This might sound dramatic but I know what it feels like on both sides, hating your body and loving it. When you come from a place of self-love, transforming your body is a completely different experience because it becomes part of living a healthy lifestyle. Maybe you can relate to the desire to get away from a body you don’t like.
Unfortunately this only solidifies the patterns of food addiction, emotional eating and yo-yo dieting. You don’t have to keep going down that path though. Implement these simple seven tips instead and move towards an easier time living healthy and fit so that you can drop the fat ... and keep it off!
Permanent weight loss coach JoLynn Braley is the founder of The Inner Self Diet, the proven, step-by-step coaching program that ends emotional eating, binge eating and yo-yo dieting. Click here to grab JoLynn's FREE 5-Day e-Course and discover what's REALLY been stopping you from losing weight for good (and what you can DO about it!).