Are Divorced Men Capable Of Commitment?

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Does a divorce in his past signify marriage-mindedness, or is it precisely the opposite?

Are you a woman who wants to be in a committed relationship or married? If so, and you're only considering men who have never been married, you may be limiting your options.

A good segment of the male population has been married and divorced. In fact, 38.8 percent of married men divorce between the ages of 20 and 24; Twenty-two-point-three percent of men divorce between 25 and 29 years old; and 11.6 percent of men divorce between 30-34 years old.

I still believe you can find happily ever after with a divorced man. I have even seen it first-hand with many of my good friends. You just need to know what to look for.

Is he marriage-minded?

A guy who has worked through his issues from his divorce and has healed himself is capable of committing to the right woman. He has committed before and will tend to choose better the next time around. He now knows what it takes to make a marriage succeed and will take responsibility to make things right. This guy will tend to be less self-centered and open to resolving issues that come up. If he has kids, he will tend to be more giving and nurturing.

A guy who is marriage-minded will be consistent with his behaviors and actions. He will spend time with you, call and text you during the in-between times, make plans with you in advance and talk about your future together. He will treat you with love, affection and respect. You'll meet his family and friends and he will meet yours.   

Or, is he incapable of commitment?

Don't get enamored with a divorced guy who has cheated on his ex-wife, is verbally, mentally, emotionally or physically abusive, is going through a mid-life crisis, has a substance abuse problem with drugs and alcohol, a gambling problem, pornography addiction, equates commitment with a jail sentence, can't hold a job and/or blames his ex for his problems and divorce. This guy is not able to commit and you won't be the one to change him. Keep reading ...

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