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Why Do Men Get Married?

Is love enough?

What factors play into a man's decision to get married? Love? Money? Children? Our panel of five guys discuss their views.

Can you relate?

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Jant Jackson manhood101.com
Posted November 18, 2009

why do they always interview these completely EFFEMINATE, PUSSIFIED MANGINAS and pass them off as the typical "male" opinion.

look if you want the truth about marriage and not just some emotional homosexual response, check out these great reasons not to get married. men need to learn to protect their futures and assets. why risk everything, when you can get the exact same things being single, w/o having to sign a contract w/the devil: http://manhood101.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=620

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BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted November 19, 2009

So the choice is between a man who won't marry you and an effeminate man?

The truth is real men have the balls to stick with the woman they love and work things out.

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Nate28 Married
Posted August 17, 2009

Wow, A metro sexual, a very feminine girly man, a guy that’s divorced, and a guy that’s dating. With the exception of the married guy who said it was a business plan, can they even answer their own question? Those guys look like they spend most of their time playing fantasy games on the internet. Were those guys the best of 'that’s what he said' has to offer in terms of explaining a man's perspective?? Half of those guys couldn't get married if they wanted to. Men get married for three reasons. 1. Security-men get accustomed to having the women that they love around them who are going to be a part of their lives and possibly start a family with. Marriage is the next step in the relationship in which a man feels that he's accomplishing something good, or doing the mature, correct, thing after the chick has put up with him for years 2. Men get married because of pressure from their women. The relationship is strong but he's not sure when to take the dive. After she or the family nags long enough, he finally proposes 3. Men get married because they are sluts and don’t want to catch something. I said it, yep. Sleeping around is Russian Roulette now a days, even when you think that you know the person, so some men don't want to end up alone and miserable for the rest of their lives because of a questionable one night stand. They find a chick they really like and marry her, whew that was close…

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Qverb Taken Rugburns, sarcasm, giggling, beautiful
Posted May 6, 2009

This was awesome! I loved it. Why? Do you really believe, first of all, that a lot of women don't view a possible marriage to a guy in a business sense at some point? Yes, a lot of us guys out there are looking to marry for love, companionship, and the whole romance and intimacy end. But we are just as concerned with the business end as well. Will she help support us financially? Where does she see herself in five years? If we have children, is she planning on being a stay at home mom or still working?

We all have different right or wrong answers to these questions, but, c'mon! This is someone that you are agreeing to spend the rest of your life with, through the good and the bad. Its not always going to be about the romance, or the passion, or the steady (or at least always) available sex. Stop thinking about just getting married. Start thinking about BEING married. Its a constant involvement that needs to be supported, and not all support is emotional. How many married women out there never looked at their guy and thought, before marrying them, probably during the engagment," Is he going to be able to take care of me? Is he financially responsible? Is he stable and committed, ambitious yet with strong family values?"...or whatever it is that you want your husband to be?

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sexy0021 Single LOYAL-NaUgHtY -NiCe- Endurance
Posted March 26, 2009

Well, I can honestly say I got married because of true love to the girl of my dreams. We dated for 5-6 years and were married for 15 plus. Our entire relationship was full of lustful passion---we made love daily and typically several times daily. During the entire 22 years together I can honestly say I felt totally in love and always aroused by her in all ways. Big Al is right on track.

Sorry to say but Panty_Hamster in my opinion is a pig! Last I checked hamsters have no tail. Calling women Pop Tarts is so demeaning---looks like you may be petting your own panty hamster (or the gerbils in your closet) with that perverse outlook.

I loved having sex with my wife each and every time--- Too bad the strange for you involves using your left hand every second day 4 variety.

Real men don't get married because they have peaked---BS--- After 22 years of marriage I am still going strong in my current relationship!!!

Pardon my sarcastic tone---but that is the kind of thoughtless dribble that unfortunately gives men a bad rap. I guess it is easier to make senseless comments when one hides behind a generic profile pic.

Happy petting hamster_Pants.

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savannah Engaged We'll get there eventually.
Posted March 20, 2009

Loita, Are you married? What makes you think there is constant access to sex?

Panty Hamster is the ickiest name ever. Ick.

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Panty_Hamster Single
Posted March 18, 2009

Lolita - You are too funny. What guy really wants to be having sex with his wife. It's all about the strange baby.

BigAl - Dude, get off the couch and go out and meet some real women. I know you have this idealized vision of what a woman is because you haven't had much luck with them. Women are about as complicated as a pop tart. Get out in the real world and meet a few BigAl.

Guys get married when they think they have peeked and are having a hard time getting new tail. They think this one is the best they are going to get so they settle. The same way women settle when they think they have gotten the best they are going to get.

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Lolita Single It all feels good.
Posted March 18, 2009

I'm sort of surprised that none of these men say they get married for the constant access to sex.

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Nate28 Married
Can't Relate, But Hear Ya - Posted August 17, 2009

Well, If you ask the average married man about how much sex he has, most men would not describe it as constant access. hahaha...yeah right. Headaches, Children, work, arguements, and a host of other problems never make sex constant access. I know some men who have less sex now that they are married. Some men had more than one girlfriend at a time in the past, and could go out on the weekends to meet women as well just to spice it up. One woman is not constant access. four or five, is about right.

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Posted August 16, 2009

I can't believe you made me register to this website, and reply to this post lolita. I've already envision a million ways to put this misconception to the grave. But I think I'l lgo with the short of it:

Just because you're married, doesn't mean you have constant access to sex. A man always knows there's only one true fountain of constant access. And it doesn't take wedding vows as the barter..

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Kataroo Single Glass half full girl.
Posted March 18, 2009

Oh, BigAl...I think you're my new superhero!

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BigAl Taken
Posted March 18, 2009

Why do men get married? Um, something we forget is that men need and want a lot of the same things women need and want: companionship, love, affection, a support system, etc. With the exception of maybe tom cruise, we're not aliens.

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