Call me creepy, call me weird, call me crazy, but whenever I meet a guy, I always have the curiosity to ask them about what may seem like the grossest and most uncomfortable thing in the world: the oral sex question.
How often do you give your girlfriend oral sex?
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Surprisingly, about 85 percent of the guys I've asked this question of say either they would only do it if
a. they were drunk
b. they were on drugs
c. they receive it first
Now, I know where most of them are coming from. Oral sex isn't for everyone, and when you are not in a long-term relationship, oral sex can be a scary thing. I myself agree with this 110 percent. I wouldn't take a risk like that, either. But when you ARE in a long-term relationship and you give your woman little to no oral sex, this can be a HUGE problem.
Not only is oral sex a pleasurable experience for a female, but it makes her feel more comfortable before sex, can help make penetration less painful and give her multiple orgasms before actual intercourse takes place. Oral sex is as important to women as it is to men, and not only due to the pleasure aspect. When you give your girl oral sex you give her a sense of security, confidence and relaxation. You give her a sense of worship and give her the idea that you care about the way she feels and that you are trying to please her, not just you. And most importantly, you're showing her that you love and want her so much that you are not disgusted by her and that you are comfortable around her.
I'm not saying oral sex defines your entire relationship. You and your partner are the reason behind why your relationship may or may not be successful or long-lasting. However, I have been in several relationships with both men and women, and I can honestly say only one of my boyfriends provided me with more than enough oral sex, and this is because he loves doing it. I am referring to my current boyfriend, who I have been with for the past three-and-a-half years. When my boyfriend gives me oral sex, it makes me feel sexy, like I am wanted, and like there's someone there that loves me enough to consider my needs as well.
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I have been in many long-term relationships and on many dates. I've met many different guys and known them for a while, but not ONE of them cared enough about my sexual needs and satisfaction to suggest oral sex, and God forbid they would just go ahead and do it. I was in relationships with a couple of guys, one of them for three years and the other for four. When we would find ourselves in the heat of the moment and I would ask them to go down on me, they'd either pretend they didn't hear me or give me some pathetic excuse to get out of doing it, because they thought it was too "gross.” However, I would willingly, without them needing to ask me, give them oral, because I wanted to please them.
This was a huge turn-off for years, and even though this was not the reason behind me breaking it off with them, it certainly was a problem. The fact that they just plainly refused to give me oral sex and made up excuses to avoid it not only made them look selfish, but it made me feel that they just didn’t care as much about me and my feelings as much as they did their own. I was giving 100 percent to these guys who were only giving me about 85 percent.