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Having Relationship Trouble? Weigh The Pros & Cons

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Having Relationship Trouble? Weigh The Pros & Cons [EXPERT]
Do you need to weigh the pros and cons of your relationship?
When having second thoughts about a relationship, write a pros and cons list!

Wisdom is accepting things for the way they are. It is understanding those ingrained traits in another person that you cannot change. These traits are so hardwired that many may not be upgradable. It is like having an old computer system. It is often cheaper just to buy a new computer than to upgrade it.

Whether for good or bad, nobody is capable of changing us but ourselves. Until we realize this in our hearts and minds, the change, whether in ourselves or someone else, will never happen. The wisdom is in accepting this. Why Kristen Stewart Cheated On Robert Pattinson

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When you seek changes in a man, they usually don't occur until his next relationship. You might ask yourself, "Why didn't he do that with me?" We often learn from our former partner and the partner that comes after is the one that benefits. How many times have we seen this phenomenon? You will think, "She is benefiting from all my hard work and time. Why couldn't he have been that way when we were together?"

What often happens is that his fear of losing or failing in the next relationship, wills him to correct his errors from his previous one. The things you say now get ingrained in the present, but take effect in the future. These changes almost always happen with another woman.

Why is it so hard so for men to change while they are in the relationship?  Is it because they are stubborn or is it because they believe their relationship will not fail? The Most Important 60 Seconds In Any Relationship

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When you are at a crossroads in your relationship and you don't know whether you should stay or leave, the best answer is to make a list of positive and negative aspects of your relationship. When you write it down on paper, it will surely tell the story and the outcome.

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