Past-Life Therapy: Have You Met Your Spouse In A Different Life?


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Past-life therapy has been known to help women deal with their current marriage crises.

I met my husband at a singles workshop over 30 years ago. The workshop leader asked us to pair off and directed us in a nonverbal experience of communicating by touching hands with our eyes closed. I didn't know this man at all, yet in one incredible moment I sensed everything about him. I had the distinct feeling that I had always known him, perhaps even in a past life. He felt the same way, and we both agreed we had been together in ancient Egypt. At first I told myself it was just a romantic reaction... I wasn't sure I even believed in that kind of thing.

I later attended a presentation about Past Life Therapy at a psychology conference. My intention was to laugh at the silliness of it all, but I found myself enthralled by the highly respected psychologists and psychiatrists who took this field seriously. At that time I had a paralyzing fear of flying. I decided to see a past life therapist, using myself as a guinea pig to test this approach.

In the regression I experienced a past life in fifteenth century Spain as the young daughter of a charismatic military leader. The setting was a stone fortress, and my father's enemies sent a few soldiers to kidnap me. They put me in a sack, carried me to the top of the highest tower, and threw me off. It was terrifying — to say the least. In that moment, I experienced all my fears about flying: fear of being stuck in an enclosed place, fear of heights, and feeling powerless in the face of sudden death.

My therapist asked me if any of the people in that lifetime were in my present life. The answer that came to me was very surprising: the father I loved so much and was parted from was reincarnated as my first husband in this lifetime. Tragically, he committed suicide after only months of marriage. In other sessions I discovered that our lifetimes had intertwined four times in all. Each time, one of us died violently and left the other. Once we were both American Indians. He was my father, killed in a raid by a warring tribe, leaving me an orphan. As a result of collecting these past life episodes, I wanted to know why my first husband and I were leap-frogging through time, continually hurting each other and leaving each other.

Dr. Edith Fiori, a respected therapist, suggested that there is a "source lifetime", a past life in which we acted unloving or violently and caused harm to others. I found the source lifetime for my first husband and me in long-ago India where he was my son. We were very poor and alone. He was only a small boy, but he stole something valuable from a rich lady (my daughter in this life). She was merciless and had him put to death. I felt responsible and guilty because I couldn't save him.

When you relive a past life while in an altered state of consciousness, you may develop more understanding about your current relationships, clarify nagging issues, and let go of fear. Transformation often takes place without any need for discussion. Even though many past lives are filled with pain, violence, or trauma, the outcome is a sense of new freedom.  

Because of my own experiences, I began to offer past-life therapy to my clients. These imageries often helped people let go of anger and resentment toward another. Sometimes people come to me to work on one problem or issue and find that, like Pandora's box, the past life regression reveals more than they knew was present.

Alicia came to me to heal her violent migraine headaches and discovered that they had to do with men in her past and present life. The earliest lifetime we uncovered relating to the headaches was in biblical times in a desert community. Alicia, a middle-aged woman, was attacked from behind by an unknown assailant. He knocked her to the ground, raped her, and left her for dead. When she fell, her head hit a root at the exact place her headaches throbbed. Alicia realized that many of her headaches were related to anger toward her husband and their sex life. She was resentful about his insensitivity toward her needs. In addition she was still holding onto rage because the moment she discovered she was pregnant with each of her children, he refused to touch her until after the birth. Therefore, she felt needy and unloved. Apparently the headaches were a sign of her unwillingness to let go of her fury. Keep reading...

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Gloria Arenson

Marriage and Family Therapist

Gloria Arenson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Diplomate in Comprehensive Energy Psychology and author of 7 books. She is passionate about helping people help themselves to be free of negative emotions and compulsive behaviors. Her motto is :"The unexamined life is not worth living."

Location: Santa Barbara, CA
Credentials: DCEP, EFT-ADV, MFT, MS
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