If you're an attractive woman who has spent countless hours wondering whether a man is interested in you or just interested in sex, I feel your pain. It's a conundrum that pervades your entire life and shades your entire view of men and dating. And although this is rarely done in the mass media (wait, YourTango IS mass media, right?) today, I’m going heap some sympathy on the pretty girl.
Does the pretty girl have the same issues as the fat girl? No. The pretty girl never lacks for attention. Heads turn when she walks into the room. Men leap to attention and whisper to each other before approaching.
Yes, the pretty girl has more dates than she needs and probably has a waiting list a mile long. What could possibly be wrong with this scenario? Well, if you’re a pretty girl or you know a pretty girl, you know exactly what’s wrong.
You’re an object to men.
You never know why someone likes you.
You can be intimidating without trying.
You can come across as aloof even if you’re just shy.
You’re instantly hated by a lot of other women.
You’re assumed to be dumb by many men.
You may be insecure, but people have trouble believing it.
You’re given things by men for no reason (Free dinners! Vacations! No speeding tickets!), which creates an odd power dynamic.
You’re catered to so frequently that you may lack some kindness, empathy or social grace.
When you’re constantly put on a pedestal, it’s hard to be in sync with “normal” people. This is the same thing that afflicts celebrities, by the way. Except they get to claim “diva” status. You’re just known as a bitch. That last one is just my observation about beautiful people and doesn’t necessarily apply to you. But the point is, by being singled out for being attractive, you’re never, ever considered “normal”. As a result, you become a lifelong target—a trophy for men to bag. And make no mistake about it, most men want to bag you.
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