There Are Only 5 Steps Between You And The Hottest Sex Massage, EVER

The first time I gave a sex massage was way back in college in the late 90s.

My girlfriends loved butt massages, I enjoying giving them. The butt (and hips) massage is worth a blog post all on its own, but I will say that along with breast-included torso and back massage, it was my first discovery of combining my partner's desire for relaxation after a tough day with a transition into full-on sex with me, or just erotic sensations blended with sweet, caring attention before she went back to studying. 

It was, and still is, hot for me to have the opportunity to focus completely on a woman's sexy bum and making it feel good all over.. The psychological eroticism of getting to feel up and indulge myself in her sexy, gleaming, oiled ass for a good chunk of time is something that I realized I never appreciated during sex. 

Far too often, we focus only on the basics: vagina, boobs, butt, penis. But the rest of the body (the stomach, back, thighs) can be erotic, too! Here's how to make the most of your partner's body while relaxing them (and getting off!) at the same time.

1. Put your partner on her tummy, straddle the backs of her thighs with her legs together, and commence with the massage oiled rubbings.

Naked, of course — both of you. You can't have your pants on because the lucky receiver will want to eventually feel cock grow and brush against their skin. It's a nice reminder of what's coming when they're wet and lubed enough inside.

2. Put a condom on if need be (polyisoprene condoms only for oil-based lubes), lube up that cock or dildo, and glide down inside of her wet pussy or lubed ass.

Keep massaging back and bum and hold still, but flexing your PC muscle to make the cock pulse inside. More teasing, I know. Tell her to squeeze on you too. Squeeze in time with each other.

It may be a little challenging to stay inside them while still doing a back massage, but I just lean my weight down through my hands along both sides of their spine, but not on it, and go up as far as I can reach, then press my hands back down. Then up again.

There are times I make it hot, too. Sometimes I like role playing as a hot masseur who's sensing the attraction.

3. Now the pump begins.

As you glide up your partner's back, arch your spine back and push yourself at the same time with your legs almost out of your partner, to where the glans is in the last third of her vagina or ass, then as you come back up to your starting position, upright with hands on their ass, hands stroking down on the sides like I described above, push back inside their hot and velvety wetness. Do this over and over again.

I love feeling my lover get syrupy-soaked inside. Love hearing the sucking-gurgling her sex makes as it fills with more of her natural juices. Yes, it is sex, but it's a sloooow teasing sex that makes her concentrate on the little details of the erotic pleasure in her sex mixed with trusted hands on her body, kneading her muscles. It's an amazing combo.

It can stop at some point, or keep flowing right on to her first orgasm of the evening. She can slide a hand down between her closed thighs to begin clitoral stimulation combined with all the other pleasures, or a vibrator if she prefers.

One advantage to this position is it's a very naturally orgasmic one for so many women who can come in this position only. These women were once girls who learned to have their first orgasms in bed this way.

4. When it's time to take it from gentle to fiery (if it goes there of course) you can do more dominant things with your hands.

Rub them chaotically all over her back and ass, holding her down with your body weight through straight arms and hands placed on her shoulder blades. Lean your weight evenly down through both hands, then pump into her while she vibes her hard clitoris underneath. I also add a little deep-voiced dirty talk. 

5. Relax your grip on her.

Now that you're both relaxed, you can sink into each other. Try it!

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