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"I can't imagine a more exciting time than now to be helping people---especially women---find their true sexual passion, extreme pleasure and sexual self-fulfillment. I love to give ...
Here's what people are saying, "There are few sex experts who bring to sexuality education and sex coaching the flair of a Dr. Patti...with a uniquely smart, tell-it-like-it-is depth of experience, expertise, personal warmth and pizzazz. She makes learning fun, tailored for individual need, updated for today's critical concerns, and in a style that promotes authentic personal and professional transformation."
I am so humbled!...
As a nationally board-certified Clinical Sexologist and Master Sex Coach, I have written hundreds of articles and four books, (including one sizzler that I happen to love that's an erotic fantasy from a trip to France I took some years ago. It's steamy yet tasteful and it WILL keep you up all night!) I am a popular speaker at public events and professional conferences. I am the original sexpert for iVillage.com, host of my own websites and over 35 DVDs about sexuality, I keep myself on the cutting edge of new trends and I just love to work with my clients. I guess my media record speaks for itself—appearances on over 250 television shows, such as “Montel”, “Hard Copy”, History Channel, “Sexcetera”, CNBC, and CBS News; and as the featured guest on 200 interviews for live talk and news radio. Keep an eye out for my frequent quotes in pop magazines, including Cosmopolitan, Men’s Health, Women’s Health, AOL Health, WebMD and more. Oh, and I was that sassy monthly columnist for men wanting to be better at sex-- at Penthouse Forum.
I've been at the very top leadership in the field of sexology: Ph.D. and Masters in Public Health, both in Human Sexuality; Master Certified Sex Coach; Past-President of the American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT); Clinical Fellow, American Academy of Clinical Sexologists; Diplomate, American Board of Sexology; AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator; Lifetime Member of the American College of Sexologists; Member of the Society for Scientific Study of Sexuality; Associate Professor of Sexology, for the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality; and Adjunct Faculty in sexuality at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology/Southern California. My private practice is in Beverly Hills and I love to offer couples’ retreats aboard luxury cruise ships. I also am the co-founder of SexCoachU, the world’s premier credentialing and training institute on sex coaching.
Each year you can find me, conducting many top level professional trainings--in the U.S., UK, and Europe--and now and then you'll catch me on-camera for television, documentaries, podcasts and webcasts, and of course for those compelling instructional DVD programs for couples’ sensual enhancement.
I believe with all my heart and soul that women and men have a divine birthright to experience their sexual power, eroticism and ultimate pleasure.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
From the time I was a little girl, people asked for my help and advice. My life's calling is sex coaching and clinical sexology. Helping people to find their true authentic sexual selves and realizing their full sexual potential. And being an advocate for sexual freedom. That's my life, that's my career path, and I wouldn't ask for anything else.
I wanted to share a story with you about the power of rituals. I love rituals myself; I once did my own personal ritual of "calling forth a husband" and within two weeks I met the love of my life. He's still here ten years later. So I am a living testimonial that rituals can work.
As a clinical sexologist and a holistic sex coach, I believe that using the five elements of sexuality (and relationships) can direct the work with clients. My model for assessing where a client is "stuck" and how to move them toward their ultimate sexual/relationship goals is known as MEBES: Mind, Emotions, Body/Body image and Behaviors, Energy and Spirit. Often by focusing in on the spirit or energetic aspects of our work together, miracles do happen.
Here is one example:
We'll call them Fred and Laura. They were in a 10-year marriage with 2 school-aged children and came to me with a desparate story. They had been fighting all the time. They felt stress about working too much, stress over his not earning money, stress over her being the sole provider, and complained about the absence of anything reminiscent of sexual contact in their lifestyle. They even stopped sensually or affectionately touching each other. Sex really had fallen off their radar screen. By the time they came to me for help, things were pretty bad and constant conflict was the rule of the day.
I suggested that perhaps we begin with the usual history-taking most competent sexologists or sex therapists would do, along with getting a clear picture of what were the interpersonal and individual blockages for this relationship. The list included the usual suspects, but we focused on their unresolved anger, resentments, poor sexual communication, lack of desire, and avoiding touch. Their uneven styles for sexually staying aroused also were contributing factors. And, like many of my couple clients, they were workaholics! Even though he wasn't employed and she was the source of high income, he was always busy at some project. She traveled a lot and he was always on the phone, at a computer or at another meeting. The kids were on auto-pilot, too.
You get the drift: They were zooming around, taking care of what needed to be done, but never spending time on just "BEING" a couple.
So, it appeared that until they were able to clear some of the obstacles with me, nothing would change. Boy, was that the truth. It took a 3-hour ritual on a mountaintop in a sacred ceremony that I created and led for them, to help them to let go of the stuck past.
They used one of my favorite techniques, the Balloon Releasing Ritual. Here is how it is done: Write down on post-it's what you want to let go of in your life (sexlessness, fear, anger, negative body image, lack of forgiving each other, avoiding affectionate touch, workaholism....) and put these little notes, one at a time, into the mouth of a balloon (I bring all the materials); blow into it, tie it at the ends and then....whoosh, release it into the air while stating the obvious. It went something like this: "I, Fred, now release our sexless marriage..." Or "I, Laura, now release workaholism..." And after sending off a battalion of about seven, shiny, beautifully colored balloons each, and incanting positive statements about what they wanted instead, they sat on the sandy knoll and wept. Together. Holding each other tight. We all held hands as we marched our way down the winding sandy trail to the parking lot. I gave them instructions for what to do next. But that's another story.
They told me, a week later, that life had changed for them that day. They let go of that wall; they felt lightness and hope. They made love that night for over an hour and wrote me a personal thank you note that said, "Thanks, Dr. Patti, for being an angel, and helping us let go of our baggage! We love each other so much. We couldn't have done it without you. Love, Fred and Laura."
Sometimes I smile when I read notes like this, knowing that it is the power of rituals that helped this couple to heal.
Love, Dr. Patti
|Time in Practice||25 years +|
|I practice in||All areas, please inquire|
|I offer my services||At my office|
Willing To Meet in Public Locations like Starbucks (please inquire)
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Other, please inquire
|I am fluent in||English|