Kate loves her dad but she is faced with a huge communication challenge because she thinks that he believes at 26, she is still daddy's little girl, but she isn't. She needs to tell him that she plans to get married and she doesn't know how. 6 Sexy Foods That Will Boost Your Libido
After two and a half years of dating, Kate and her boyfriend, Jason, are ready, both emotionally and financially, to get engaged and set a wedding date. Her mom is finally convinced but her dad has never really considered her boyfriend to be worthy of notice. Kate thinks that problem is that her parents are having trouble with her leaving the nest because she is the first child. However, in this family, people apparently need to guess each other's thoughts instead of talking to each other, so no wonder she is afraid to talk to her dad. 9 Reasons Why You Should Appreciate Your Dad
He isn't used to talking about anything serious with her, so she has never learned to have a conversation with him and instead, she has to guess what he is thinking. Up until now she has been a good girl and never challenged him; now she is imagining that she is really going to upset him and she doesn't want to.
The truth is that she is making up a story about what her dad is thinking and why her dad has never had a real conversation with his future son-in-law. Kate isn't unusual; in the absence of information we all make up stories to try to make sense of the world around us.
The problem is not the fact that we make up stories about each other: the problem is that we don't make up enough different stories. Let me explain. We make up one story, believe it, and use it to guide our actions. We rarely wonder whether the story we make up is true, we just assume that it is. Here is what Kate needs to do:
1. She needs to make up more stories and imagine as many different positions her father could take as she possibly can. For instance:
- He is upset because she wants to leave the nest.
- He thinks no man is good enough for his daughter.
- He is shy and has no idea how to talk to any young man she dates.
- He is secretly wishing for her to leave home so he can turn her room into his den.
- He is worried about the current state of the world and wants to protect her.
- He has been secretly observing Jason and is very happy with her choice.
- He is expecting her announcement and waiting for it.
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