So many busy couples wind up in distress and disconnected from each other because everything else is a priority but their relationship.
As an NYC psychologist,
I often wind up seeing couples who have lost each other in the chaos of the rest of life. Work, kids, school, even friends – people are weighed down by so many outside factors and “obligations,” and get into trouble when they neglect the importance of their relationships. This is especially true for professionals during “crunch” times when work and life becomes especially crazy and it feels like you’re doing everything just to keep your head above water.
When people first fall in love, they spend all kinds of time with each other and enjoy it. Other things fall to the wayside – you might stay up all night with each other, call out sick from work, and it’s like the other person becomes your entire universe.
Eventually, we all know that even the hottest of relationships eventually becomes old hat.
Reality returns, calling out sick from work is reserved mostly for when you actually are sick, and if you’re up late it’s because you’re out with friends, have a cranky baby or you’re doing work. Couples wind up living together, going about their lives, and their relationships take a back seat to everything else they have going on.
Here’s the thing:
If you don’t prioritize your relationship in addition to everything else you have going on, you are putting it at risk. But as a busy professional working full-time or more, how are you supposed to keep your connection alive with your partner?
Here are 5 simple rituals you can add to your life without having to set aside hours to try to stay connected during the busiest times in your life. Put one or of these rituals on autopilot for those busy times in your life instead of neglecting each other until you get a chance to breathe again and enjoy each other even more.