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Kegel Your Way To Better Sex

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Kegel Your Way To Better Sex
Doing Kegel exercises daily will improve your orgasms... and your sex life.

Don't bother with the many fine how-to books on having a more fulfilling orgasm. The quick, easy and zero-cost answer to a more satisfying and intense orgasm is… drum roll please… daily Kegels. They are the best two minutes a day you could ever spend on the road to better sex.

Before there is any eye rolling, please hear me out. When I speak to people about doing Kegels, many women nod their heads sagely and explain they have already done them. Problem is they only ever tried it once and it was a while back. And don't even get me started on how the men's Kegel movement still hasn't even caught on—I'm zealously working on getting them on board.

Unfortunately, very few people have made Kegels a daily habit. Where did Kegels originate? In the mid-1900s, Dr. Arnold Kegel developed his Kegel exercise for women experiencing urinary incontinence. During followup examinations, the women reported an amazing side effect: Kegels helped their vaginas become a lot more sensitive during intercourse. Of course, this intrigued Dr. Kegel and, subsequently, he found that doing Kegels exercised the pubococcygeal (PC) muscle—the muscle group that forms the orgasmic platform. So during orgasm, along with the other pelvic muscle, the PC muscle contracts.

Understandably, every muscle group needs to be exercised in order to maintain tone and strength—and to feel at its best. If not exercised, the muscle group will become slack and eventually atrophy. Therefore, a lack of sensation around a woman's vaginal opening is usually caused by an out-of-shape PC muscle. Kegels after childbirth are a great way to tone and strengthen the vagina. In addition, some postmenopausal women find Kegels help them to maintain lubrication because of the daily increase in blood flow to that area. 16 Unexpected Health And Beauty Benefits Of Sex

So what could you possibly be waiting for? Get on board the daily Kegel bus right this minute.

Finding Your PC Muscle
In case you've never done a Kegel exercise, here are the basics. To find where your PC muscle are located, sit over a toilet and, with your legs apart, start a flow of urine. Halfway through, stop the flow. Concentrate on which muscle you used to stop the flow—that is your PC muscle. It is important to do this trial exercise because it's easy to mistake your stomach, buttocks or thigh muscles for your PC muscle.

Mastering the top three Kegel exercises
Once your PC is located, there are three simple exercises you can do.

1. The Squeeze and Release Exercise
Contract your PC muscle for three seconds. Then let them rest for three seconds. If holding for three seconds is too much at first, start with one or two seconds instead. Do this exercise 10 times per day.

2. The Flutter Exercises
This exercise is about squeezing and releasing the PC muscle as quickly as possible. Rapidly squeeze and release ten times. Then take a short rest. Doing this to upbeat music helps keep you on track. Do three sets of ten per day.

To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.

Right now, I want you to:

Find your PC Muscle.

Within 7 days I want you to:

Set a schedule to make kegeling a part of your daily routine. Do it after brushing your teeth, before bed or whenever you can find time each and every day to practice.

By the end of the challenge I want you to:

One by one, master the three kegel exercises. Practice each day and enjoy the benefits to your sex life!

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