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The 6 Signs Of A True Gentleman, Ladies.

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Are you dating a true gentleman? Here's how to find out!

Gentleman: noun (pl. gentlemen): a chivalrous, courteous, or honorable man. 


As you can see, the name 'gentleman' does not refer to a 'common' man. This is because his characteristics outshine those of other men. He is able to handle issues calmly and maturely, avoiding excessive conflicts and disagreements. In a relationship, this man makes sure his partner is happy and tries not to complain about trivial matters. He wants to make sure his partner is comfortable and well appreciated. A gentleman does not ignore responsibilities or stray from a faithful relationship.
Last but not least, true gentlemen will not break your heart.

Are you dating a true gentleman? If not, here are six ways to quickly identify the gentlemen in your life:


1. He takes responsibility for his actions and decisions.

A gentleman does not leave his spouse in a mess. The impacts of sex are pregnancy whereby most men deny knowing very well that it is their responsibility. The gentle men usually have the caring attitude during pregnancy period and the spouse too. They take care of the partner and all their needs till she delivers. The common man does not care of the unborn baby or the mother. They only come after the baby has matured and start claiming that they fathered the child and want to take them home. This can be compared to a gentle man who takes responsibility from birth until the child is free to make their own choice.

2. Loves and respects his woman for who she is

Gentle men mean business when it comes to love. They are able to truly love and respect their children. A real man is the one who loves, respects and treats his women with dignity. Women likes to be treated well by their men because this gives them confidence that they are of great value. Respecting your woman is a prove that you truly love her.

3. Takes the first initiative-he leads

The man is the head of the house hence he should lead in everything. A real man shows his woman the way forward instead of waiting to be lead. Woman feels comfortable when walking with their men being lead. Ensure the goals you set as family, you lead towards achieving them.

4. Fulfills his partner mentally and sexually

A real man is the one who fulfills his partner both mentally and sexually. The most important thing you can do as a man is to ensure you satisfy your partner in bed. Sexual UN-satisfaction has lead to broken marriages. No relationship that can work effectively without sex. Everybody has feelings so you need to agree how and when to sort each other by making love. Avoid things that can make you lose desire of your partner because she will feel hated.

5. Protects his partner physically and emotionally

A man is the security of the woman. Every woman by the mere fact that she has a man around her feels more secure and protected. A real man usually wants to see the partner safe and sound whether she is far or just near him. His role is to make sure that if they are dating and not married yet he should make sure that she has arrived safely to her home. This is after a date or any meeting that they parted late. A gentle man ensures that he do not hurt his partners feeling in any way possible.

6. Commits to the relationship fully

Common men are not fully committed to their relationship. They do not mind the feelings of the spouse making them suffer getting committed. A gentle man ensures that the relationship has moved perfect time really because they are so committed to a lifetime relationship. Most of the common men are only in need of a short term relationship which is just to fulfill their selfish needs. The common man do not put into consideration female sexual health rather than just satisfying their feelings



The above are 6 major things in which your gentle man should do in your relationship. It does not mean that he is supposed to possess all the 6 rather some of them should be seen in him to make him qualified to be called a gentle man. A gentleman should value and respect a woman not only the one he is in love with but all women he comes across. The common man thinks that a woman is an object subject to sex. You find that they can rape even the minor and do not think that a woman can have more money than a man hence have no respect for any woman. A gentle man deserves the name.



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