Single? 15 Things To Quit Cold Turkey

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Single? 15 Things To Quit Cold Turkey [EXPERT]
If you want to find love, it's time to give up these 15 things.

You are a woman; you are single and you are trying so hard to succeed at everything you do. You're busy at work trying to please your crabby boss; you're trying to be a perfect woman ... and it's just so darn difficult.

What's a woman supposed to do? Do more? Try harder? Fix every single thing? Try to make things work better, harder, faster, stronger? This is the old paradigm of dating. Embrace the new paradigm of dating: giving up!

1. Give up on your excuses. There are plenty of good men out there. If you don't think you have time, you can make time. Do you want to be like Bea Arthur on the Golden Girls? Take this short survey to see if you are ready to uplevel your love life.

2. Give up the need to always be right. If your date chooses a restaurant you don't love, go anyway. There's no need to suggest your favorite five-star joint if he doesn't bring it up.

I'm sure they'll have something you can eat no matter where you go; it's not going to kill you to eat iceberg lettuce one time this year.

3. Give up trying to control what your man is doing. No matter how badly you want a man to call or text you, you can't change that fact that he isn't calling or texting you. It's time to live your life and focus on what makes you happy, besides his late night phone calls. Top 3 Reasons To Try Online Dating

4. Give up on blaming your man for how you feel. It's not a mans fault that you are still bitter about a past relationship. This new guy has nothing to do with your past. He's the "new guy" and not the guy that slept with your best friend or left his beard trimmings in the sink. A goddess takes responsibility for her own feelings and finds things that make her feel good.

5. Give up your limiting beliefs. Give up thinking that this guy is too good for you; you deserve to be with the perfect man that is perfect for you, even if it's only for a short time. You are an amazing woman and when you realize it, men will be lining up just to be near you.

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