Whether you are looking to improve a good relationship, find your soulmate, or understand a difficult partner, by gaining an understanding of the nine universal personality types you will be more aware of your own traits, appreciate your partner more, judge less, align a potential match, and possibly welcome your personality differences.
There are nine universal personality types called the Enneagram. Most likely you encompass pieces of all nine types, however most experts agree you possess one dominant type. In their book, "Are You My Type, Am I Yours?" Authors Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele simplify the Enneagram for you. 2 Types Of Men You Should Always Avoid
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Every human being emerges from childhood with an inborn temperament and dominating personality traits. Believe it or not, most personality characteristics are encoded in your DNA. It is these inborn tendencies that largely determine the ways in which you adapt to your childhood environment, family members, education, and conflicts — and not the other way around.
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The Nine Personality Types
The Perfectionist — has high standards; can be critical of themselves and can oftentimes be critical of their partner; is motivated by improving people and the world around them; can be seen as controlling, obsessive, judgmental; wants to be seen as perfect; wouldn't think of asking for help.
Best Match up: The Adventurer (teaches the perfectionist how to lighten up)
Worst Match up: The Romantic (not productive enough for the perfectionist)
The Helper — Puts their partner's needs ahead of their own; has trouble receiving; may tend to work or perform for love; good listener; masks their own feelings; prioritizes themselves last; dire need to be loved; will manipulate or victimize themselves to get love; overly accommodating; won't speak up for themselves.
Best Match up: The Asserter (can teach the helper how to speak up for themselves)
Worst Match up: The Romantic (will take advantage of the helper)
The Achiever — Measure themselves by their successes; driven; typically not in touch with their feelings or their partner's feelings; industrious; efficient; can be overly competitive, narcissistic and insensitive to achieve results; may ignore their partner; preoccupied with work.
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Best Match up: The Adventurer (achiever can learn how to have fun)
Worst Match up: The Peacemaker (achievers will see them as lazy and unmotivated)
The Romantic — Emotional and needs to be noticed; tends to be idealistic about their relationships; creative; warm; needs to be understood; can attract a partner very easily, but has trouble keeping him/her; goes to great lengths to avoid being ordinary; tends to be moody, depressed, guilt ridden; expects their partner to be excessively available to them or they feel neglected.