This Weekend, 'Fall Back' & Fall Back In Love


10 Ways To Increase Intimacy With Daylight Savings
How will you spend your extra hour?

Bummed about the shorter days and darker evenings? Don't be! "Falling back" can give you some extra time to be intimate with your honey. Daylight Savings Time never looked so good!

Instead of focusing on the shorter hours of daylight, what if you looked upon the early nights as invitation for more intimacy and a deeper connection with your partner?

Here are ten ways to view shorter days from the magical lens of love:

  1. Create a grand romance: Shorter nights are the perfect time to forego outside engagements and reconnect with your partner at home. Start a fire in the fireplace. Cuddle on the couch under a blanket. Pick up a new piece of sexy lingerie and wear it to kindle a spark.
  2. Light up the night: The great thing about darker evenings is that you can transform the mood from gloom to romantic by lighting candles. Better yet, make dinner by candlelight the new normal so you can chat about the highlights of your days.
  3. Go back in time: What if you and your partner pretended you were kids back in the day before electronic entertainment? Pull out the Monopoly board, the backgammon set or build a blanket fort. Playing with your partner without the distraction of flashing screens builds intimacy and connection.
  4. Cook together: Cooking isn't just for Thanksgiving. When the nights are dark and the air is cool, it's the perfect opportunity to heat things up in the kitchen! Make double batches of your favorite recipes and freeze them for crazy weeknights. Besides, it's more fun when the two of work together, which brings a sense of common goals, trust, intimacy and accomplishment to your partnership. Don't forget about baking together; the scents of cinnamon and vanilla are turn-ons for men!
  5. Early to bed: What if you listened to your body instead of forcing yourself to stay up to go to bed at the "right" time? Take advantage of your body's natural rhythms to get some extra shut-eye. Snoozing next to someone you love increases endorphins. Besides, climbing into bed with your sweetie allows you to get in some extra snuggle time!
  6. Early to rise: Take advantage of your restful night to do a little pre-dawn lovemaking. In the morning, you'll both have more energy. It also allows you to begin the day with a physical and emotional connection.
  7. Embrace side-by-side companionship: Remember the concept of parallel play for children? Imagine curling up to read that book you've been dying to read while he tinkers around or catches up on the latest Sports Illustrated. Pursuing individual hobbies while being in the same house strengthens the bonds of trust and reminds you that a healthier "we" can be harnessed by focusing on your own interests. Besides, men thrive on this type of quality time, and it builds a deeper since of appreciation for your partnership.
  8. Play outside: Don't let the cold deter you from playing outside! Research shows that couples that work out together have more sex. Think about it: cold and crisp walks in the park, layering up to explore local trails, and doing it alongside someone you love. Besides, we need all the Vitamin D we can get. Even a short jaunt in the great outdoors will lift your spirits.
  9. Entertain yourselves: This is the perfect time to catch up on all of those things you've wanted to watch. Curious about Mad Men or Downtown Abbey? Catch up on those movies you missed in the theaters — or begin a favorite TV series from episode one. The early darkness and cold are also great excuses to to stay in, snuggle under a blanket, and enjoy some screen time together.
  10. Embrace gratitude: It's the season of Thanksgiving, so why not begin the habit of gratitude now? Get a shared journal and commit to each writing daily two things you're grateful for. Or, you can email each other every day at lunch what you're most grateful for that day. We live in such lavish abundance, yet it's so easy to speed through the days without noticing. A shared gratitude practice will deepen your relationship. 

Cultivating rituals, new routines, and activities that connect you to your partner, build intimacy and remind you why you fell in love.

Debra Smouse believes in creating a daily life that you love. Visit Debra's website and connect with her on Facebook or Twitter.

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Debra Smouse

Life Coach

You deserve to live a daily life you adore. When you listen to your heart, you can purposefully choose actions to move you towards how you want to feel.

Tarnished Southern Belle (and life coach) Debra Smouse can help you de-tangle the drama in your life, push away the need for perfection, and show you how to create a daily life that you love.

Want to get help taking that first step in creating meaningful goals? Get crystal clear with my free e-Book Listen to Your Heart: Design a Daily Life You Adore.

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