Making a relationship last is hard work, but it's so worthwhile because the rewards that come with a happy and passionate relationship are amazing. So how do you make a relationship last? The key to a long-lasting relationship is one that's well managed.
You see, the way you manage a relationship dictates how well it's going to work. So the first thing you need to do is figure out what you want from a partner. Right now, I want you to answer these questions honestly.
What do you want out of a relationship? How do you want to be loved? How do you want to give love? What are your boundaries and limits? Are you a nurturing type? How often and how much sex do you want to have? Are you someone that likes to make love all night, or just roll around for ten minutes then go to sleep?
Once you understand what you're really looking for, you'll be able to manage a relationship based on your wants, needs and desires. In reality, you can't have a successful relationship with someone else until you know yourself well enough. You need to date yourself first!
I think many women bounce from guy to guy, simply because they haven't taken the time to get to know themselves first. You can't manage a relationship with someone else, until you've managed one with yourself.
It's time to be honest with yourself.
When you go out there meeting guys, do you know what you're looking for, or do you just randomly meet people not really knowing what's going on?
From now on, you need to answer the questions I asked you before you get involved with a man. You need to understand who you are and what you want from love. I want you to know in detail the exact kind of relationship you want before you try to find it.
I know what I'm looking for in a woman, because I've gotten to know myself, and I've looked at what I learned from past relationships.
So what's next?
Once you meet someone, you need to ask yourself questions all the time. "Is this someone I can be with on a regular basis? Do they understand me? Do we speak the same language? Do they make me laugh? Is there a strong enough physical attraction?"
There are so many elements to a good relationship, but it has to start with you. You're never going to be happy unless the relationship is meeting your needs. So the take-away from all this?
Get to know yourself before you try to get to know someone else. What do you want from life? What do you want from love? What do you want from a relationship? What will it take to make you happy?
It's time to spend some time with yourself before you go out there and find your next relationship because your next relationship isn't going to work unless you've managed your expectations beforehand.
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