I Need Coffee To Live! (And Other Lies We Tell Ourselves.)


hands holding coffee
Turns out, you won't die without coffee. Here's why telling yourself otherwise is a bad idea.

Do you wake up in the morning and think right away, I need a coffee to start my day. I'm not going to be able to start my day until I have that coffee. I need coffee right now or I can't do a thing?

The real question is, do you really "need" coffee, or have you programmed your mind to believe that over the years because of your language? Think about how we program our mind by the words we use. "I need coffee. I need a beer. I can't function without an energy drink."


Is your life really going to change if you don't have that coffee? Will it truly ruin your day if you don't have a drink after work? We all make this mistake in our lives so I'm not pointing fingers here. The truth is you don't need anything at all. All you need is to program your mind correctly. I never drink coffee in the morning. I don't need coffee. I just need to get out of bed and set my intent for a successful day in my brain.

I need to program my mind that today is going to be a great day. I say to myself, "I need to be happy today. I need to have a great day. I'm going to create a great day. I'm going to have a positive, amazing, fantastic day. It's going to be an amazing day, and I'm going to meet great people all through the day." When I do that, I always create a great day. I create happiness. I make things happen.

The next time you have a bad date, don't say to yourself, There are no good men out there. There are no emotionally evolved men anymore. Men can't communicate. Men don't want relationships. I'm destined to be single all my life. Why can't I find a good man?

What you tell yourself is what you're actually going to find.

What you think about, you bring about. It's all about the power of intent. You have to change your intent. I know mine is different to many of yours. I always decide to have an amazing day and to bring loving, beautiful people into my life. I dismiss people who aren't ready for that type of connection. When you do this, you change your mindset, and you change the people you attract into your life.

Most of us don't meet enough people, so when you're thinking about all the bad people you've met, it's in your brain that those are the "only" people you ever meet. And with that mindset, that is all you'll ever meet. Changing your mindset is a choice to change your outcomes. We've heard it thousands of times, yet we ignore it over again. Change your thoughts and beliefs, and change your life. It really works.

I truly believe there are so many beautiful people to meet. Some of them you'll connect with on an amazingly deep level. When idiots come into my life, I don't let them bother me. In fact, I dismiss them completely. You will meet pretenders, but you can't let them get you down because they're not ready for a connection like yours, and they're not ready to express love as you can.

Just set your intent every day, and you won't go wrong. Make your intention: Today is going to be a beautiful day. Today I'm going to give love and receive love. Today, I'm going to meet people that can keep up with me. I'm not going to worry about anyone who isn't ready for what I want. It doesn't matter because I believe in attracting love, and I'm going to be open to the right people.

The more you talk about a bad situation, like that man who drove you nuts, the more you're going to bring it back into your life. You're going to attract the exact same dynamic because that's what you're thoughts and energy are focused on. The new "him" may have a different face, he'll have a different body, and he'll have a different tonality to his voice, but he'll be the same guy. What we think about, we bring about. 

Change your beliefs and make your thoughts work for you. You don't need coffee, you don't need a drink, and you don't need a man in your life. You just need your mind to focus on the great outcomes you want for your life. Your mind can be limitless and powerful if you practice focusing it with positive intention. Don't ever forget that!


More positive affirmations on YourTango:

Photo: WeHeartIt

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

David Wygant

Dating Coach

Are you ready to finally find love?



Location: Marina Del Rey, CA
Credentials: Other
Other Articles/News by David Wygant:

7 Reasons Being Single During The Holidays ROCKS


The holiday season is fast approaching. Actually, it's here! Can you believe that Thursday is Thanksgiving? That's your first test: Surviving the holiday season single. Let me tell you something; being single during the holiday season is by far the best time for singles. I'm going to explain why. Everyone Is An Emotional Mess: This time ... Read more

Ladies Stop Micro-Managing Him And Let Him Be A Man!


If you desire an amazing relationship with a man … If you want to bring out his alpha-male or the king in him … You need to stop micro managing him. (Take this relationship advice) A lot of women do it without realizing it. You do it because you care, but you don't understand how it triggers a man's mind. It can be ... Read more

I Cheated, But The Reasons Why Could Lead To YOUR Happiness


There are plenty of reasons men have affairs, I know ... because I've been there. Sometimes we cheat for emotional reasons, and other times it's purely sexual. Often it's other issues, like after starting a family, men sometimes stop seeing their partner as their sexual fantasy because now she's the mother of their kids. Yes, I've ... Read more

See More

Latest Expert Videos
Must-see Videos
Most Popular