So you're dating that new guy and things are going swimmingly. You basically floated home from the first date and already had the drapes picked out for the home you'd be living in together.
Y'know what? Dates like that are the kind that we all dream about and it happens to us guys too, but slow down girl before you act on those feelings!
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Therefore our Tip #1 is:
Don't say "I Love You" too soon! Two dates and "he's the One?" You'd better get those feelings in check and slow your emotions down or "he's the Gone!"
We all need affection, yes, even tough guys, but can I decide if I even like you first before you've got us picking out patterns and hiring a caterer?
You've listened to tip number one and you're cool, calm, collected. Things are going well and he's invited you over to his place! Woo hoo! You watch a movie and eat Chinese takeout together on his comfy couch. Now he's in the kitchen and preparing to do dishes and you push him aside to show how domestic you are. He shrugs and allows you to do the dishes. So he puts water to boil for tea and you continue your dominance like you're his mother.
STOP! Don't do it! Fer cripes sake allow him to serve you too! Men have a need to serve their women, just as women have a need to "take care of their man."
So Tip #2 to Not do is:
"You don't allow him to do domestic things for you." If a man feels that it will always be you serving him, he'll either get lazy and expect it to always be that way (a nightmare for you down the road) or he'll find someone else that will allow him to be in an equal partnership where each serves the other; the only healthy way to be, really.
Don't get me wrong here, as guys we LOVE women who are domestic, know their way around a kitchen and take good care of us. Allow us the same privilege of doing the same for you occasionally! You can always clean up after us (ninja-like) if we screw it up!
A few years ago I dated a wonderful woman who upon hearing I was ill, came over with home-made chicken soup and took good care of me. My son and dad were here and I raved about what an amazing girlfriend I had and how lucky I was!
Several days later we were talking and she wanted to discuss what occurred that day. She stated how uncomfortable she was about the way I was talking about her to my family and that she wasn't used to men saying nice things about her. I jokingly responded "okay, I'll never say anything nice about you again" to which she replied, "yes, I would prefer that."
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When I said "you're joking, right?" she replied "no, I'm serious, it makes me very uncomfortable." A shiver went through me at that point as I realized that I was in love with a woman with very low self esteem, who simply could not accept compliments. It wasn't very long after those comments that we were not a couple anymore.
Tip #3 (as if you didn't already know) is: