Dating is a crazy business. It often involves putting oneself in the awkward position of having to make meaningful and engaging conversation with a virtual stranger while trying to assess if future encounters will be emotionally/physically/spiritually satisfying on any level. And you usually have to do this over dinner or drinks while trying desperately not to say something totally embarrassing or spray your date in the eye with lemon juice meant for your salmon, ice tea or Corona. Of course you know the things you try to avoid to keep a date running smoothly (and impress a guy, if indeed, you have any interest). But how about the gaffes, blunders, and faux pas that men make on dates (while optimistically imaging themselves in your naked embrace)? The following is a list of ten dating mistakes men make that quickly send your hope of a possible ongoing relationship into the crapper (Sadly, you’ll probably recognize more than a few of these from past dates-gone-wrong).
1) Trying to move things along too quickly
Very few things are as much of a turn-off as a guy who’s discussing plans for dates seven, eight and nine, as the appetizers are being served on date one. He is likely to be perceived as desperate, controlling, stalker-ish or all three.
2) Not making definite plans or having a specific idea where he wants to go on a date
Especially early on in the dating process, suggesting a specific time, date and place for a romantic rendezvous is very important. Planning indicates a man cares enough to put a little thought into his date. Failure to do so is likely to be interpreted as lack of genuine interest or inability to get his act together – neither of which bode well for a long and happy relationship.
3) Talking about his ex’s
We all have baggage. Some, just a small carry-on – others, a steamer trunk. Speak glowingly of an ex, and it sounds like you’re not over her. Slam her, and you’ll likely reveal anger issues that aren’t particularly flattering. They’re your “ex’s” because they’re part of your past. Best to leave them there.
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4) Offering to split the bill
No law dictates that a man, simply by virtue of his sex, is required to pay on a date. That being said, a man who invites a woman out for dinner, then plunks down the cash to cover his share, expecting her to pony up the remainder will likely not endear himself to his dinner partner.
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5) Treating wait-staff poorly
For many women, how a guy interacts with others is a strong indication of how he will eventually interact with them. Treating a waiter or waitress in a demeaning, condescending, or disparaging manner is a big old red flag.
6) Being a know-it-all
Confidence is attractive, arrogance…not so much. And an obnoxious, dogmatic windbag is about as appealing as ringworm.