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The Surprisingly Common Reasons Women Have Trouble Getting Wet


The Surprisingly Common Reasons Women Have Trouble Getting Wet
Here are 6 surprisingly common things that interfere with a woman's ability to self-lubricate.

Are you experiencing this problem in the bedroom? Do you have difficulty getting wet even when you are SUPER excited?

You just finished an extreme make out session, and you feel like your clothes are going to catch fire if you don’t get naked IMMEDIATELY and get down to business. The clothes go flying, hands go fondling, and...

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…she’s not wet. Both of you are disappointed. She may even feel embarrassed and ashamed.

Guys, welcome to the female version of ED – failure to lube. The funny thing is this happens to EVERYONE at some point or another. Sometimes things just aren’t right and our bodies won’t cooperate.

It doesn’t mean she’s not turned on. There are six surprisingly common things happening behind the scenes that may be making it difficult for her to self-lubricate:

1. Zapped of ZZZs – Not surprisingly, a lack of good sleep puts stress on our bodies. It depletes our energy stores, making it much more likely that our minds may be willing but our bodies unable to perform. And with stress comes an inability to self-lubricate enough for sex. (My favorite silicone lube is called Pjur Eros. Blog about it here.)

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2. Cramped by Caffeine – If she’s been using Starbucks, Red Bulls, or any other number of other supercharged drinks to keep her going, all that caffeine comes with a cost. For some women, it can inhibit the ability to get wet, and it even makes it difficult for some women to reach climax. 

3. Allergies are Agony – Every year, millions of allergy sufferers find comfort in over-the-counter or prescription medications. The problem? Many of those meds wind up dry out the mucous membranes, especially if they are designed to relieve congestion. Many people don’t stop to consider there are other areas that can be dried out…areas that you don’t necessarily WANT to dry out.

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