5 Yummy Advantages Of Being Single During The Holidays

By

5 Yummy Advantages Of Being Single During The Holidays [EXPERT]
Pumpkin pie isn't the only delicious thing about celebrating Thanksgiving single!

Holiday time for singles can be just plain torture, like fingernails on a chalk board. But when I was single, I actually looked forward to the holidays. Sound crazy? It's not!

As a dating coach for women over 40, I would love for more singles to realize the true benefits and fun of being solo for the season. Let me share five reasons why I totally enjoyed Thanksgiving and the holidays as a single woman.

1. I had the freedom to choose who I wanted to spend Thanksgiving with. When I was single, I was totally on my own. My parents had moved to Florida and while I had a brother, I decided to review my options for where to spend my holidays. This was so much easier than having to negotiate with a boyfriend or husband on where to have Thanksgiving dinner.

When I opened up to the idea that I wasn't going to spend time with family, so many options became available. Sharing that I was a "holiday orphan" created a rush of invitations from friends. Over the years, I created my own ritual, visiting two or three people in the same day. This made me feel like a welcomed celebrity rather than a single woman with nowhere to go. I had a blast.

2. I was free from spending time with boring or obnoxious in-laws. I spent time with dear friends and enjoyed their families and friends tremendously. They might have had family issues — but it wasn't my family! That left me free to talk to whomever I wanted, move around the room, and keep myself engaged in interesting conversation.

3. My time was my own. That is, I had the freedom to arrive or leave the Thanksgiving gathering when it suited me. As a single woman, I didn’t have a boyfriend or husband telling me when to arrive or when to leave. I was in charge of my schedule based entirely on how things were going and what else I had planned. As long as I honored the hostess’s invitation, I could do whatever moved me.

4. I didn't have to worry whether my significant other was having a good time. Being single, I only had myself to be concerned with. While singles see this as a bummer, at Thanksgiving it was a huge relief for me. There is nothing worse than having a great time which is interrupted by someone else's idea of fun or, for that matter, their idea of what isn't a good time. Without a husband or boyfriend, I was a free agent for the day which felt great. Continue reading ...

More singles advice from YourTango Experts:

Article contributed by

Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan

Dating Coach

The Dating Coach for Women Over 40

Get my free book 7 Dire Dating Mistakes Women Make That Keep You Single here.
Author of MANifesting Mr. Right, Why Can't I Find Love and How to Sizzle Vs. Fizzle Online

Location: Milford, CT
Credentials: CCC, MBA
Specialties: Dating/Being Single Support
Other Articles/News by Coach Ronnie Ann Ryan:

Is Taking Nude Selfies Even Remotely Smart (Or Safe) Anymore?

By

You meet a great new guy who is handsome, successful, and interested. Yeah! After a few fun dates, the chemistry heats up and you text him a couple of nude photos. It’s exciting and tantalizing to say the least. He assures you he won’t show the pictures to anyone. Trouble is, once you hit send, you lose complete control of your privacy ... Read more

How To Turn 'Let's Go Out Sometime' Into An Actual Date

By

Almost every single woman has run into this scenario when dating at any age, really. You meet a handsome man at work, in a store, at a bar, while speed dating, etc. You chat a bit and he seems interested. Then he takes the next step and asks for your number, saying you should go out for coffee or dinner sometime. You think to yourself, "Hey, he asked for ... Read more

Skip The Sex Talk: 4 Reasons To Keep Your Dating Profile PG-13

By

As a confident and passionate woman looking for love online, fully expressing who you are in your online dating profile might seem like the right idea. Sharing everything about yourself and your physically passionate nature is sure to win a man's attention, right? Yes, but not neccessarily in the way you'd hope for. Women I work with constantly ... Read more

See More

PARTNER POSTS
Latest Expert Videos
ASK YOURTANGO MORE QUESTIONS
Most Popular