7 Types Of Women That Men Run From Every Single Time
These are the types of women that men tend to avoid.
Joshua Rawson-Harris | Unsplash In an ideal relationship, we’d only allow our partners to see the best version of us at all times. But in real relationships, we often allow them to see both the best and worst we have to offer. This is understandable. Living with someone, sharing money and toilet seats, seeing them day in and day out — it gets a bit stressful. It’s simply too hard to put forth our 100 percent best, 100 percent of the time.
Still, letting your guard down in front of men you date is one thing, but adopting an unconscious self-sabotaging role is quite another. What many women don’t realize is it’s very easy to accidentally sabotage your relationship — you don’t need to hack into your partner’s email or boil his pet rabbit to raise a red flag. There's some pretty simple advice for women, and it says to never act like these types of women that men don't like. Because if you do, you will chase men away. There's no doubt about it.
Here are 7 types of women that men run from every single time:
1. The buster
The typical "buster" seeks control of the relationship by putting her man in his place... repeatedly. She views herself as a "problem-solver." Though she has noble intentions (sometimes), constantly telling her man his way is the wrong way isn’t so much noble as it is infuriatingly annoying. By trying to control him, she undermines his thoughts, wishes, and, perhaps most importantly, his sense of competence. All of this robs him of something each man holds near and dear: his masculinity.
2. The mother
"The mother" does exactly what it sounds like — she mothers her partner. She dotes on him, fusses and worries, she believes he can do no wrong, perhaps she even picks out a sailor suit and knee socks for him to wear on the first day at his new job. She also preoccupies herself with the emotional barometer of the relationship. This might sound healthy, but it’s not.
The "mother" puts all the relationships (all the joys, all the sorrows, all the ups and downs) on her back. She puts pressure on herself and herself alone; it's her duty to make the relationship work. She’s constantly wondering how he’s feeling, where she stands, whether he is okay, and what she can do to fix it. The problem with this role is two-fold. First, a girlfriend or wife who acts like a man’s mother will lead him to rebel. After all, that’s what children do. Second, it's unfair for a woman to baby to a grown man! She might not mind it initially, but it’ll only lead to resentment down the line.
3. The love vixen
"The love vixen" is a charmer, forever able to draw men into her waiting arms. She does this by defining herself with her intimate prowess. In other words, she controls her mate with physical intimacy. The reason this sabotages a relationship is that she's essentially manipulating and blackmailing her partner. If he wants intimacy, he must do what she wants. And it's safe to say, that any relationship based on blackmail probably won’t remain successful for long.
4. The damsel in distress
The concept of "the damsel in distress" is simple: Boy meets girl, boy rescues girl, boy and girl live happily ever after. It may sound romantic, easy, and productive, but it only works for a little while. In the long run, a damsel can’t always be in distress (unless she stars in several Lifetime movies), and the man can’t always act as the hero. It’s too exhausting — and unrealistic — on both fronts. In the end, the man ends up resenting her for her incompetence.
5. The tease
Most of us, at one time or another, have known a tease: the type of person who teases only to pull away before she seals the deal. Though this isn’t necessarily sabotaging in moderation, overindulgence leads to feelings of frustration. Like actual teasing, it's fun at first, but then it gets old fast. Too much teasing builds a wall between two partners, a foundation they can’t surmount because of a disconnect. He feels unsatisfied and inadequate, and she feels lonely — both partners feel as if they can’t express themselves openly and honestly.
6. The accountant
"The accountant" focuses on the equality of a relationship — complete and total equality. A woman in this role may keep track of who pays for what and when (some may even track it to the dollar amount or take into consideration each other’s respective salaries). The problem here is that relationships aren’t business, they’re pleasure. If they’re not seen as enjoyable, intimacy will fall by the wayside and love just becomes collateral damage.
7. The Princess
When a woman plays the role of "the princess," she cares less about love than she does about being adored and put on a pedestal. To put it simply, "the princess" wants to marry a man who views her as a trophy wife. Women who adopt this role aren’t only robbing their significant other of happiness (as their relationship is empty and for show), but also robbing themselves, taking away a chance at real love and connection. In the end, every woman has played one of these roles (and men play their roles, as well). On occasion, falling into these roles probably won’t affect your relationship much at all. However, playing them repeatedly destroys relationships until there’s nothing left to ruin.
Clayton Olson is an International Relationship Coach, Master NLP Practitioner, and Facilitator specializing in dating, empowering men and women, self-esteem, and life transitions. He has 20 years of experience working to optimize human behavior and relational dynamics.