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Top 10 Reasons Why Women Divorce

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Top 10 Reasons Why Women Divorce
Many people mistakenly believe that money is a primary cause of divorce. It didn't even make the top

According to the national Center for Health Statistics, the woman files two-thirds of divorce cases. A more amazing statistic is that when the couple are college-educated, divorces initiated by the wife is a whopping 90-percent! What's more interesting that for the past one-hundred years the primary filer has been the woman. The divorce rate began climbing at a drastic rate in the 70s. This statistic correlates with the fact that beginning in 1969, states began adopting "no fault" divorce laws and by 1985, all states had such a law in place.

The "no-fault" divorce allowed a couple to divorce due to irreconcilable differences. Prior to these laws, adultery or extreme cruelty had to be proven for a divorce to be granted.

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This may be the reason why many people think that it's no big deal for a woman to go through divorce. The truth is that divorce is extremely painful for all parties involved. Most women do not want a divorce. They took their vows seriously and believed they would be married for life. They want a partner, a friend, a lover and a mate that cherishes them.

Even though many women work today, they are still expected to be the primary housekeeper and main caregiver of their children. This adds an extreme amount of undue pressure on her. This means that women actually have two jobs. In many workplaces, women are still dealing with inequality, watching male counterparts get promotions, as they are passed over time and time again.

Due to beliefs that have been passed down from mother to daughter for generations, many women today still struggle with who they are and what their roles in society are meant to be. It's an inner struggle that often leads a woman to put impossible demands on herself. She wants it all and somewhere inside of her feels that she has to do it all. Whilst at the same time she is screaming for help.

According to a study done at Pennsylvania State University the following is the top 10 reasons why women divorce:

  1. Infidelity
  2. Incompatible
  3. Drinking/Drug Use
  4. Grew Apart
  5. Personality problems
  6. Lack of communication
  7. Physical or mental abuse
  8. Loss of love
  9. Not meeting family obligations
  10. Employment problems

Surprisingly financial problems was 13th on the list, which goes to show you that fighting over money all the time (or lack of money) is not one of the primary causes of divorce.

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