Are you ready to find some peace in your life?
As a woman that's been there, I understand the loneliness, hopelessness, despair, confusion and fear that can seem overwhelming and next to impossible to bear. Divorce is hard!
While you are grieving the loss of your marriage, you must make important decisions that will impact you for the rest of your life. You may not realize all of the emotional effects of divorce or what type of support is right for you.
You may not feel free to make your own choices, it appears as if there is this invisible wall blocking you from moving forward. You are struggling to make some normalcy in your life.
You may believe that once the legal documents are signed and you are legally divorced, that you will feel better. This is often not the case. Many women report feeling worse after the legal documents have been filed. You may be full of regrets, asking yourself why, and thinking if only. You also may have to contend with co-parenting, less financial stability and a new woman in your ex's life.
You may feel as if no one understands the emotional turmoil you are in. Whether you are in the midst of a nasty divorce or are already legally divorced, I can give you a nurturing, safe environment to vent your frustrations, explore your options and gain clarity within the emotional turmoil so that you will know what steps to take in this new journey of your life.
Begin, by taking the Divorce Recovery Compass assessment and receive some important next steps based on where you are in the divorce recovery process. My promise to you is that you will come away with hope and feel inspired with one or two techniques that will empower you to let go of the past and move forward with ease.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
After living with a man that put me down for 20 years, I had low self-esteem, felt like I was unworthy of being loved and was the ugliest person that ever lived. He had a horrible temper and I was living on eggshells. The night my brother died, he refused to comfort me and it was then that I knew something had to change, I either had to curl up and die or fight.
My past has helped me to develop a loving compassionate way of helping people overcome their own challenges. I accept people for who they are and where they are. I am passionate about helping you improve all aspects of your life.
Between my personal experience, assisting clients as a life coach and working in social services, I have found that many women suffering from divorce have difficulty finding support that is safe and nurturing.
You must go through a grieving process to accept the loss of your relationship as well as the hopes and dreams that you had for it. It is only then that you can stand on your own two feet and create a happy and fulfilling life. I am here to hold to hold your hand and to cheer you on as you move forward.
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1) The #1 Mistake Women Make After Divorce and How to Avoid It.
2) 3 Steps to Forgive Betrayal
I look forward to hearing from you,
Mary was under a tremendous amount of stress at her job. Her co-workers constantly talked about her behind her back, and would attack both her personal and professional integrity. She had no idea what she had done to create such a hostile work environment. In addition to her hostile co-workers, Mary was contending with having to do the work of two people. Deadlines loomed around every corner, and she constantly stressed about meeting her deadlines even though she always managed to meet them.
The stress she was experiencing at work, was beginning to take a negative impact on her home life. Every night she would go home and argue with her husband over the smallest little things. One night her husband asked "Why are we fighting so much? We never used to." Mary thought about for a minute and replied that she was just under so much stress at work that she was bringing it ALL home. Her husband stated "If work is so bad, we should sell our home, pay off our bills, that way you can stay at home and not have to deal with it all"
Mary had a choice to make:
1) Learn how to manage her stress
2) Lose her home
It was at this time that Mary contacted me for coaching. I helped her to learn to manage her stress through meditation and breathing techniques. Together we developed a simple step by step plan that helped her to gain confidence, and stop worrying/stressing over what her co-workers were doing or saying.
Her husband was asked to give her 15 to 30 minutes to "de-stress" when she got home, which did wonders for her. After a few short months Mary and her husband were no longer fighting, and Mary did not go to work with knots tied in her stomach every morning.
I just wanted to offer my praise for the life coaching services offered by Cindy Holbrook. My husband and I run our own small company. In early 2009, we faced the worst storm we had ever run into in a financial way.
Our business equipment had been giving us problems…on a monthly basis. It seems like we were making just enough to repair the equipment every month. Once the economy got really bad, our orders began decreasing. From the first week of January until the last week of April, we didn’t make any profits from our business, which is how we feed our family. As a matter of fact, we were almost $20,000 in debt with our business.
During this time, I requested Cindy’s coaching services. I was able to keep myself positive throughout this experience. And, things began looking up. We were able to sell off the bad equipment that kept breaking, and purchase new equipment under a new contract. This did cause us to have to move to another state, but we were above water for the first time in months.
Then…we hit rock bottom. Before we could climb completely out of the hole, we ended up homeless. Living out of a hotel. We never lost hope, though. Because we knew (thanks to Cindy) that being positive and staying focused on the life we wanted for ourselves, personally and for our business, that we’d get there.
I found an opportunity to put some of my skills to use in a second business. It’s actually my dream occupation, and best of all I am self-employed so I can continue helping my husband with his company and work around my kids’ schedules.
A month after finding this opportunity and “moving” into the hotel, everything fell into place. We got a second car (that we needed), and more than that, it was “thee” car that we wanted. We got a house-a large home in a nice community within a good school district.
Now, we are still on our way up. Sure, there are speed bumps…but we know how to react to those unexpected occurrences. We are so much better off for it. Our businesses are thriving and we are happy.
I highly recommend Cindy’s coaching if you are stuck in a rut or just don’t see a way out. If you truly want a change, it will come and she’ll show you how.
|Main Specialty||Divorce/Divorce Prevention|
|Time in Practice||25 years +|
|I practice in||Multiple states/provinces, please inquire|
|Additional Expertise||Divorce Recovery Coach|
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|I offer my services||Telephone|
Other, please inquire
|I am fluent in||English|