Is Divorce The Only Solution To Marital Problems?

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Is Divorce The Only Solution To Marital Problems?
Marriage isn't easy, but that doesn't mean you can't work things out.

Insurmountable marital problems that lead to divorce for one couple may in fact lead to a healthier, stronger relationship for another. The difference lays in the commitment of the pair to make their marriage work. It only takes one person for divorce, but it takes both partners to sustain a marriage.

According to a study done at Pennsylvania State University, the number one reason for divorce is infidelity. However, many couples survive infidelity with guidance from a counselor or therapist. Incompatibility came in second. Interestingly, financial problems ranked number 13 on the list. Even if you are the one that chose to leave the marriage, a skilled divorce coach will help you to deal with the emotional roller coaster that is sure to follow.

There is no true way to gauge whether the problems in your marriage are insurmountable. The breaking point is different for each person.   Regardless of what problems were in the marriage, both men and women report that there came a time when they honestly could care less what their mate did or said. Other people have stated that when they began wishing their spouse were dead, they decided it was time to leave. Often, an event triggers a person to realize that their marriage is over.

It is important to note that just because a couple may have appeared to weather the storms, that no one knows what goes on behind closed doors. Sadly, there are many couples residing together that lead two very separate lives. They rarely communicate, do not sleep in the same room, have sex, eat or socialize together. They are married in name only. They are committed to marriage but not to each other. They have already experienced the emotional death of their marriage.

Here are five common marital problems that often lead to divorce: 

1. Lack of communication. Communication and friendship is the foundation of a good strong healthy marriage. It is impossible to remain friends with someone that you barely talk to. If you sincerely care about a person, you will talk, laugh and share ideas with them. You will listen to what they have to say and respect their opinion.

The breakdown of communication in a marriage begins slowly. You begin paying more attention to what needs to be done, rather than listening to your spouse's triumphs and trials. You begin to become bored by whatever he is saying. As he feels less valuable, he begins to talk less, and soon the two of you are walking around your home with nothing to say to one another. Keep reading ...

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