Boomerang Men: Why Exes Come Running Back

By

Boomerang Men: Why Exes Come Running Back
After a breakup, why do men try to come back for a second chance?

To ask Charles your love and relationship questions, join him on Facebook Thursday 3/8 at 2pm eastern!

Boomerang: (noun) A curved piece of wood when properly thrown will return to thrower.

Boomerang Man: Annoying; a man that a woman has stopped being romantically involved with who gets in contact for unknown reasons. (See booMANerang.) Relationship Kryptonite: The Saturday Guy

Every romantic relationship has an "original agreement", whether it's sexual, financial, emotional, or a combination of all three. When this original agreement isn't being fulfilled, it causes the relationship to stall or end. Although there are plenty of exceptions, statistically this happens most in new relationships, and it seems to be the woman that breaks things off for a number of reasons. If it's really that early in the relationship, the reasons are usually big "dealbreakers" of a sort. If the women has a firm sense of her self-esteem, things like cheating and lying aren't forgiven. As such, the relationship may end abruptly, and the man is told (on no uncertain terms) to be gone. 25 Dating Dos And Don'ts [VIDEO]

The million-dollar question is: After this kind of breakup, why do some men come back or get in contact with the woman again after some time has passed? From an anonymous reader on my Facebook Page:

"I've had almost every guy of every type of relationship in the spectrum come back over the years. What prompted me to email you was that I received a well wishing text yesterday from someone I'd casually dated for a few months. It ended very badly back in February after I discovered him lying about some things. I told him to never contact me again and until yesterday, he respected my wishes. I've always said that men are like boomerangs but i never in a million years thought this one would reach out to me again for any reason especially because when I shamed him once, he confessed to everything that was going on."

Men learn from their mistakes but some of them don't learn as quickly as some women would hope, and sometimes they come back to try again after they learn some new things. This usually doesn't jibe well. The question is, why do they return? Well, here are a few possibilities: Nice Guys vs. Bad Boys - The Battle Continues

1. Epic Sex. No man wants to give up good sex. If there was a good physical relationship, it's a good reason for him to return. Is the woman able to separate the physical stuff that works in the relationship with the emotional aspects that may be lacking?

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission.
Article contributed by

Charles J. Orlando

Author

You can also follow me on:

http://www.facebook.com/theproblemismen

http://twitter.com/charlesjorlando

Email: advice@theproblemismen.com

Location: Los Angeles, CA
Credentials: Other
Other Articles/News by Charles J. Orlando:

Top 3 Ways Women Sabotage Their Chances At Finding Love

By

Love is challenging enough to find without self-defeating behaviors. As such, many women can't find a successful relationship and they become their own worst enemy. After discussing the issues with over 250 women on Facebook, many were awakened to their own behaviors and how they were subconsciously destroying their chances for love. If you're a woman, ... Read more

Why Rape & Domestic Violence Are A Man's Problem

By

It's been almost 2 years since the gruesome gang rape of an Indian woman on a bus in New Delhi. The 23-year-old medical student who was attacked later died in a Singapore hospital. What has changed since then? NOTHING. Women get hurt, threatened, coerced, and abused every single day — the details of which I will not type out in this rant. ... Read more

10 Tell-Tale Signs He's Cheating On You

By

He's acting ... differently, but you just can't put your finger on why. Then, his cell phone rings in in the middle of the night ... and he doesn't have a good explanation. Is he cheating or is he just going through a rough time? We've all heard the "he blames you for cheating" and "his cell phone has a password on it" ... Read more

See More

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.